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From: emermuffin
Date: 10-28-2003, 05:17 PM (1 of 12)
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I've been a stay at home mom since Marenna was born (love it, too) but DH lost his job 6 months ago. He submits resumes everyday but has had only one interview in all this time. It's maddening! I've been looking also but I would much rather stay home with our girl. We'll get through this but it's really tough. It seems like so many people have lost their jobs and there just aren't enough new jobs to fill. I know at least 6 people who've been out of work for 3 months or more. I was wondering how many of you might be in similar situations? I'd love to hear what you are doing to keep going when things look so dismal. It's so hard to keep DH motivated to keep looking when I'm losing hope myself! emermuffin
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From: MaryW
Date: 10-28-2003, 06:03 PM (2 of 12)
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It's very, very tough when somebody is unemployed. Maybe your hubby needs some help updating his resume or needs to take another type of job until you can get on your feet once again. Whenever we were in a spot like that, I used to take in kids to babysit to help with bringing in a little money. I also worked nights and weekends doing just about anything. There is no easy solution, I am sure some of the other girls here have tips for you. Hey girls, how about it? What would you do in this situation? MaryW
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From: Pudge99
Date: 10-28-2003, 08:07 PM (3 of 12)
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I agree with Mary. Anything is better than nothing. Take any job that he can get (McDonald's if he has too) and keep looking in his feild. Who knows someone could see his good work ethic at McD's and offer him a job. It happens all the time that is why McD's is always hiring (lol). But seriously when I worked for McDonald's I had several offers from regular customers who liked the way I took pride in what I did. I didn't take any of the offers because McD's offered me the flexability that I needed. I had the same concern as you about staying home with the kids. I found something that I only have to be away a few hours a week and I make a little money to help out. If you are interested just send me a PM and I will tell you about it. Gina
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From: Aimee S
Date: 10-28-2003, 08:27 PM (4 of 12)
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Hubby lost both of his jobs and I have tried to get a job but have been turned down because I have been out of the job field for 12 yrs. Thanks to our govener he last his first job teaching. He canceled all trucking from community colleges . Then our company got hit hard. The govenor tripled our car tax. We had to sell 10 of our big rigs and anyone with X amount of tickets are not allowed to drive. That is what my hubby does drive. We cant fire the guy that is 62 yrs old that has been running the place so close to his retirement. He is tring to find work. The more you disaprove, the more fun I am having!
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From: james.diane
Date: 10-28-2003, 10:35 PM (5 of 12)
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Don't give up hope! I think the ladies are right - your husband should take any job going right now, while he looks for something better. I always think it's easier for an employed person to get another job than someone who is unemployed(don't know why that is, though...) It is hard - I've been there myself. When my husband was made redundant I worked nights at the hospital. I hated every minute of it - our son was just a baby and I missed him terribly(I cried all the first night I worked!) but it got us through a bad patch. You have each other and you can get through this.Good luck! Diane :)
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From: Sherri
Date: 10-29-2003, 09:28 AM (6 of 12)
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I just quit my job. It was a very abusive position and I now I am getting hassaled by the government as to why I quit this great gov't position. I am not looking for work and not anticipating looking for work for some time. I just want to be left alone while I destress. Sherri My website
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From: chiloGod
Date: 10-29-2003, 11:50 AM (7 of 12)
I have been home with my girls since January of 2001, after separating from the Navy. But just this past week I started looking for a part time job to help out and because it will look better when we apply for a loan for a house. I will be starting one on Saturday (at a supermarket store), working evenings from 6 to 10 or 12. Also on Saturdays (time unknown). I don't want to be away from my girls  especially the youngest because she's spoiled. I agree with the others about your husband trying something else, while continuously looking and praying. *Prayer is the key, faith unlocks the door* |
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From: Magot
Date: 10-29-2003, 01:36 PM (8 of 12)
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When mine were little I did the evening shelf stacking at a supermarket to bring in some money. At least then I could be with them during the day and Tony at night. We've been very fortunate in always being able to be around for our kids instead of them going to childminders, it has been a privilidge to be at home with my kids. I still work part tme now so I can be there when they get home. It is almost as important for teens to know there is someone at home when they get in, Rosie would need to off load about the day when going through her exams. They now don't get in untill 6 in the evening, but it does mean I can still have a meal ready and a welcoming home. I've been lucky.
love and kisses, Jan
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From: allie-oops
Date: 11-02-2003, 03:34 AM (9 of 12)
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Well, my husband has been out of work for 11 months. He's now starting his own business, and so am I. There are NO jobs out there - except the kind of job that would pay less than the unemployment. The hardest part is that I too have been out of the job market for 12 years, and have stayed home with my boys - plus we homeschool, and I'm the primary teacher. Hubby could never do it if I started working. Not to mention that I refuse to go to work full-time, come home and school the boys, do the housework and laundry and cooking....if I have to live like that, he can move out. He's been not real stressed about not having a job - and living here like it's a motel or something, with maid service. This being out of a job is INCREDIBLY hard on a marriage. Try your best to keep positive, and be sure to reassure dh that you love him and trust him and consider him a success. You will reap great rewards! "onward through the fog"
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User: allie-oops
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From: mamahoogie
Date: 11-02-2003, 01:54 PM (10 of 12)
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I am not currently unemployed but off on long term disability but I do have a suggestion to those looking for work. Go to your local employment centre and have your resume professional done. My son-in-law's aunt worked at an employment office and part of her job was to draw up or re-do resume's for people and it was amazing what a difference she made in theirs. I was watching Dr. Phil last week and he had on a guy that was unemployed and he said it was the worse resume he ever saw and it took him 10 minutes to figure out what the guy did for a living! Dr. Phil's other advice was to put as much effort into finding a job as having a job - every day, Mon - Fri, early morning til late afternoon, go out and look for a job...and take anything offered til you find what you really want to do. I feel very sorry for all of you looking for work. I lost 30% of my wages being on disability but at least I have something coming in. Try to stay positive as your attitude will show during an interview and a positive attitude may just get you a job. 
I've decided to live forever - so far, so good.
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From: Genevieve
Date: 11-02-2003, 03:19 PM (11 of 12)
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I know it is hard to take on a job outside of his field for much less than he'd normally make, but think about it this way - what if he had taken a job at a retail store, or supermarket, or McD 2, 3, or 4 months ago? He could have continued sending resumes out daily but you would have had all that extra income all these months. If the mindset is that he'll get a job in his field any day now, many more income-less months could pass when he could have been working a more "menial" job and providing income for his family. With the Christmas season approaching, many retail stores in the mall are hiring extra help. Maybe, also, you could do something with your sewing? Make window treatments or something crafty for private clients? Good Luck - It will get better!! -Genevieve
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From: emermuffin
Date: 11-02-2003, 11:51 PM (12 of 12)
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Thank you all for your advice and encouragement. I really took heart from your responses. I'm with you, allie-ooops. Unemployment is definitely hard on a marriage. Even more so b/c prior to being laid off, DH was working out of state for 15 months and we only saw him for a weekend every six weeks. I was almost relieved he was laid off so our family would be together again! But six months later, after being constantly together, I'm ready to see less of him!  He hasn't taken a menial job b/c most of those pay less than unemployment. We have four weeks of unemployment left can file for a benefits extension. We don't know how long the extension will be, but he'll keep looking for something he can do that provides a benefits package as well as a salary greater than a Mcjob. We figure he won't find anything until after the first of the year when most companies define their budgets and resume hiring. He has also applied to companies he would never consider if he weren't desperate. I know he will find something eventually and I'm keeping my fingers crossed and candles lit that it will be soon! Aimee S - I hope your hubby finds something very soon. It's so very frustrating when the government legislates hard times for small business. There seems to be a lot of trucking legislation these days, at least in Houston. Sherri - good for you for getting out of a bad situation. Perhaps this is the time to sew or quilt your way back to good mental health! How long were you working that job? I hope they quit hassling you about quitting and you find a worthwhile postion you enjoy. allie-oops, good luck to you and your husband in your new businesses. Please let us know how it goes. It's something I've looked into but I'm just not that good at anything. At least not yet. I started sewing two years ago and I've enjoyed it immensely and learned quite a bit. But I've got a ways to go with my technique and patience before I could sell anything! I think I'm all typed out, ladies. I'll be keeping my happy face on and working to stay positive. You do the same! 
emermuffin
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