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From: Aimee S
Date: 10-29-2003, 05:50 PM (1 of 16)
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At back to school night I asked the teachers about birthdays for the boys. Both of the teachers told us we could bring cupcakes to school but we needed to arange a time to bring them to school. Went to school today to ask the teacher what time tomorrow and I was told that the district will not allow birthdays to be celebrated. Talked to the principal she also said that the mandate from the district no birthdays. Called the district and they also have no Idea about this. Anyone know how to go about changing school. The District rep for our area tells me it is the principals choice. I wish they told us this sooner cause I have 3 dozen cupcakes and no where to take them. The more you disaprove, the more fun I am having!
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From: MaryW
Date: 10-29-2003, 06:17 PM (2 of 16)
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Aimee, you think those boys won't devour 3 dozen cupcakes while watching a movie. LOL.
MaryW
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From: Raine
Date: 10-29-2003, 08:48 PM (3 of 16)
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Check with your PTO/PTA. Talk to the principal again, and tell him/her that the District said it was up to the principal. These topics should be discussed at PTO whether the principal likes it or not!! If the policy was changed, the parents should be notified. I'm sure your son is very disappointed; bringing birthday cupcakes to school is very important to them. Raine |
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From: Aimee S
Date: 10-30-2003, 04:00 PM (4 of 16)
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Mary I am sure they could devore them in a day if I let them. Here is an update. I have caused so much of a rucus that not only did I get BD back but also next year for Halloween they will not be able to pull this stunt. AND to be sure I was given a scholarship to join the PTA courtesty of our District rep. To join our PTA it is 150.00 a quarter. I will be going to PTA in a Second seat what ever that is. I will be on the board. The pricipal is the chair and then there is a first seat and then me. What have I gotten my self in to. OHHH also they are going to have to provide/arrange babysitting during the PTA so others can join since that is what is keeping the people away. Right now the PTA roles are the principal, the assit, and two other parents and one of them is the DIL to the principal. I get to take the cupcakes today. Not that it was going to stop hubby he was going to stand out side the class room and hand them out anyway. OHH the reason they said they got rid of BD was because it was unfair to the parents that could not afford it. To me a box of cupcake mix and frosting at our store is under 2.50 I think it is more lazyness that they dont want to do it. The more you disaprove, the more fun I am having!
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From: maps
Date: 10-30-2003, 05:01 PM (5 of 16)
way to go aimee  when our school has their pta drives it's only $4.00 for the year... that's it!!! $150 a quarter is absolutely unbelievable... i know for a fact that no one would join at that price at our school...nope wouldn't happen here!!! i think if more parents would stay involved and stand up to those incharge our kids would reep the benefits tremendously!!! good job!!! ahhh now your boys don't get the three dozen cupcakes!!! maybe a blessing in disquise!!! LOL
Marge
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From: dmoses
Date: 10-30-2003, 05:30 PM (6 of 16)
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Well, isn't that considerate...you can't bring cupcakes because of families that can't afford to do the same...at the same time, they can charge $150/quarter for parents to be a part of the PTA. PTA shouldn't cost anything! Any parent with children in the school should be considered a member automatically... It looks as though the administration is going through a lot of trouble to exclude parents from the school. That would raise a red flag for me. Take care,
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From: Pudge99
Date: 10-30-2003, 07:38 PM (7 of 16)
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Aimee, If you don't see some major improvement now that you are on the board I would run as fast as you can away from that school. $150 to be on the PTA board? PTA should be a volunteer program or they should pay you for all your time and effort. I think your first impression of transfering to a different school is a wise choice. Gina
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From: Raine
Date: 10-30-2003, 10:35 PM (8 of 16)
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Way to go, Aimee!!! We don't pay anything to be a part of our PTO. If we have a child at the school, we are a member of the PTO. Go get 'em, girl!! 
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From: plinko
Date: 10-31-2003, 09:28 AM (9 of 16)
| Does this mean that every kid who has a birthday has to supply cupcakes for the class? It's not the price of things, but the time, and when I'm working split shifts and hubby is on swing, there is absolutely no time to bake. I'm lucky that the sitter feeds my kids but I can't expect her to bake too. I know there are moms at the school that do treats at the drop of the hat but not all of us can. Maybe that's why the school put a lid on celebrations because of expectations it creates. |
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From: dmoses
Date: 10-31-2003, 10:00 AM (10 of 16)
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I don't think it creates an expectation at all. Some parents like to celebrate their child's birthday that way, others don't. It's no big deal. I've never sent treats to school on my child's birthday, and have never felt pressured to...but, I would support anyone who wants to.
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From: sewingrandma
Date: 11-01-2003, 09:17 AM (11 of 16)
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When my kids were in grade school, they allowed BD cakes/cupcakes and even party favors if the parent provided them. Any food brought in though had to be from a bakery! They said it was a health code issue. One year my son had 2 parties. He was changing schools the day before his birthday so we had a party with his friends at the old school then on his birthday we had a party there too with his new class mates. I always tried to be involved in the school. Never had to pay more than $10 to be a member of the PTA though. Volunteered a lot of time during the day to help out the teachers too.
Brockie
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From: Ann Made
Date: 11-01-2003, 10:27 AM (12 of 16)
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I find this interesting. In our school district, parents do not pay a penny to be a part of the PAC (PTA/PTO). The parents are made welcome to the group. Teachers may attend also but cannot vote and should be very careful about making suggestions as they might not be appreciated. The principal attends but not the Vice Principal or vice versa. The parents hold the positions, not the school. Birthdays are celebrated in many schools and range from big celebrations to tiny ones. Teachers will let people know of allergies and some teachers will request certain foods not be brought in. But birthdays are not discouraged at all. In my school, birthdays are not celebrated as the children are Mennonite and birthdays are very low key in the community. We do sing happy birthday in the class and the principal announces birthdays and hands out fancy pencils. Appreciated by all. Ann Learning is a journey, not a race.
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From: Marrigan
Date: 11-01-2003, 10:44 AM (13 of 16)
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I agree, the fact that the principal is heading your PTA and the $150 is a definite red flag. I teach in a small rural district and we have a PTO. The teachers are very involved in it, but most because they have children in the school. I do know the PTA is an official national organization with specific bylaws, whereas a PTO is different. I'm not sure all the details but they are different. I would think the PTA might have some bylaw about paying to belong. It also sounds like your principal is a control freak, not a good thing for an elementary person. |
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From: jcook
Date: 11-01-2003, 12:14 PM (14 of 16)
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What are they doing, trying to combine fundraising and membership fees into one? At our school, we pay $5 per year to join, all fundraising is a separate issue. The principal should not be involved at all unless it is as a guest or as a guest speaker. $150 per quarter is outlandish! Jill |
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From: Bama
Date: 11-03-2003, 05:36 PM (15 of 16)
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That's waaayyyyy too much. It's $6 here for the whole year. And we elect the officers. Our school board doesn't allow home-baked items to be shared with the class. Only store-bought and sealed foods. Some parents of the elementary age kids buy cupcakes from a bakery for the whole class when it's their child's birthday. To keep from having some kids left out, our PTA sponsers the "birthday table" in the lunchroom. Each month, the kids that have a birthday in that month come by the birthday table and get a piece of birthday cake and a small goodie bag with donated items from local stores (like pencils, stickers, coupons for happy meals or free candy bars, etc.) Good luck with your new position with the PTA. 
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From: MaryW
Date: 11-03-2003, 07:15 PM (16 of 16)
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Aimee, take heed. I think these girls are telling you something. I hope you pay attention. MaryW
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