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From: MaryW
Date: 02-05-2004, 04:04 PM (1 of 9)
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What topic sends you and your spouse into a fight quickest? 1. Money matters 2. Inlaws/kids and grandkids 3. Habits MaryW
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From: MaryW
Date: 02-05-2004, 04:06 PM (2 of 9)
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It used to be money. I am one who saves relentlessly. He would spend his last cent and then wonder what happened. No more, now it is over trivial things, something he didn't hear me say or something I totally forgot. I can't think of a huge subject we argue over.
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From: plrlegal
Date: 02-05-2004, 04:40 PM (3 of 9)
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It depends on what you mean by "fighting". DH and I disagree over things but we don't fight (that is we don't scream, yell or call names and we definitely don't resort to any type of physical abuse). However, we do disagree over some of his housekkeeping habits such as the constant untidy piles of paper and clothing scattered on and about the furniture in his office at home and his very annoying habit of putting his dirty dishes in the sink instead of the diswasher which is right at his elbow when he stands at the kitchen sink. Other than those things, we're pretty even keel . Oh yes, my staying up all hours of the night to sew and quilt annoys him to no end but he only occassionally mentions that to me, he has sort of given up on that issue, I think. Patsy Patsy
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From: MaryW
Date: 02-05-2004, 05:15 PM (4 of 9)
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No, we usually don't yell or scream either. I mean a definite disagreement. Patsy, you describe what we do, just little aggravations. My husband reads the menu out loud, I could just scream!!! MaryW
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From: Chrysantha
Date: 02-05-2004, 08:18 PM (5 of 9)
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Just his general stupidity makes me mad... Not puting 1/2 full soda cans in the trash or fridge... Forgetting that there are other people in the world besides HIM. Using 4 B I G mixing bowls to make 1 batch of cookies and then NOT cleaning up... Making decisions for me, when he REALLY shouldn't do that...I have a mind of my own and I know how to use it.... and what REALLY sets me off is when he complains...about his aches and pains and how bad he feels....my response is always GROW THE H--- UP and shut up, you can walk, you can talk and you have a brain to use, you have NOTHING to complain about.... I can't stand a complainer/whiner....  Boy do I feel better now.  btw..he always says I'm right and he never argues....(except when I get mad at the complaining...then he just heaves a BIG sigh....) Chrys
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User: Chrysantha
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From: plrlegal
Date: 02-05-2004, 08:26 PM (6 of 9)
My husband eats ice and it almost makes me nuts!! I have often felt like jumping out of a moving car when he's doing that. When he sits in his office at home (which is only separated by a wall from my sewing room) and crunches ice, I get up and slam the door.  I have asked him multiple times not to do that because it really sets my teeth on edge but he does it anyway as if I don't exist. Patsy Patsy
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From: DorothyL
Date: 02-05-2004, 10:38 PM (7 of 9)
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My husband and I don't fight about money or family issues -- It's always been an us against the world kind of thing. Sometimes our habits get on each others nerves but after 25 years we've given up on fighting about that too. I bought a lovely teak and wicker screen so I can block out looking at his office. And since I quit cleaning house I've discovered his messes don't bother me so much. I know this doesn't sound true but I can't remember our last fight -- or any real fight we've ever had. Dorothy |
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From: carman
Date: 02-05-2004, 11:03 PM (8 of 9)
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Dorthy i believe you, hubby and i have never had a scream at each other fight in the 20 years we have known each other and been married. oh yes we have been ticked off and even mad, but have never screamed or thrown dishes (sil does that lol) and we have gone through some tough times, money, infertility, in laws ect, i know when he is stressed when he "snaps" a comment at me, it is then i either just leave him alone or he will go out and walk it off(even just driving for an hour helps him) and likewise he will leave me alone and we always seem to wind up in the same bed cuddling at night i have friends that scream loudly at each other when they fight and i feel sorry for the kids, my mom and dad did that and i remember crying in my room, i was so scared, not that my dad would do anything to my mom, just the loud screams and anger in their voices, maybe that is why i don't, i remember those feeling like they were yesterday. what really gets me is when he is not feeling well, which is pratically never (not a sick day in 20 years at work) and he drags himself home and just as i am getting better (as i will have been sick before him) he will wake me up at midnight and ask for a sandwhich, after the astonishment goes, i take a breath and yes(no smacks now lol) i make him something to eat 
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From: plrlegal
Date: 02-06-2004, 03:16 PM (9 of 9)
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I'm not a cry baby or a whiner but my dh knows when I go off somewhere and cry that something has really, really, hurt me and then he feels really bad and is very attentive and loving. The last time that happened was in January when I had a full blown case of the flu and was really, really sick . I was actually too sick to shower and dress myself so I could to my doctor's office. DH had been quite sharp and abrupt with me for several days and I finally ended up crying and told him through my sobs what he had been doing. He has been such a good boy since then. In fact, today he stopped by my office and took me to lunch. Patsy Patsy
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User: plrlegal
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