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From: MaryW
Date: 02-27-2004, 06:53 PM (1 of 18)
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You know how it is, one of your kids calls up and tells you something, or something out of the blue surprises you and is upsetting. What do you do when you are upset? Keep it all inside and brood. Scream and yell and confide in someone. Talk to your other half and see what he says. MaryW
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From: MaryW
Date: 02-27-2004, 06:54 PM (2 of 18)
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I don't yell or scream. Usually I vacuum. I need the physical movement while I am thinking. Usually that helps calm me down. Some days I vacuum A LOT!!! MaryW
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From: Chrysantha
Date: 02-27-2004, 08:12 PM (3 of 18)
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It all depends on why I'm upset.... If I'm mad at someone I get quiet and I go off by myself.... If it's a death in the family, I do something, anything...work it off. If I get yelled at for some reason..( I REALLY hate that) I cry, unless I'm mad, then I yell back. Most of the time I try and blow it off.... Chrys
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 02-27-2004, 08:13 PM (4 of 18)
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Oh boy this one is a good one Mary. LOL I do all three. First I scream and yell to anyone who can hear me. Then I discuss it with my other half. Then I brood over it until I rationalize it in my head that I'm getting all worked up over something that either I can't do anything about, or I take action and do something about what made me mad in the first place. I use to let it build up and brood over it but then it made me go on high blood pressure pills and realized it was making me sick holding it all in. I'm a little more healthy now and I feel better after the episode is over. |
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From: Shellymoon
Date: 03-11-2004, 09:22 PM (5 of 18)
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Never thought about vacuuming as therapy. Mowing the lawn works for me. You can mow while cussing and fussing and among all the noise and grass clippings and sweat, no one notices a thing. Then, when the lawn is finished, you're calmed down and can sit on the porch, drinking a root beer and inhale the smell of the freshly-cut grass. Can't wait for my grass to start growing and someone to tick me off!
Shelly Moon
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From: DorothyL
Date: 03-11-2004, 10:52 PM (6 of 18)
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I guess I brood until I wear it out and forget about it. I grew up an only child and never learned to confide in others. Except my husband, I do tend to discuss things with him -- but I don't talk to anyone to the extent I talk to myself. I'm my own best friend I guess. dorothy |
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From: shirleyp
Date: 03-13-2004, 03:39 PM (7 of 18)
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Dorothy, I understand what you mean. If I have to travel anywhere by myself my mother still thinks its horrible. I told that I can tell a bad joke and still have a good laugh, I can argue with myself and no one argues back. I can sing on the top of my lungs and no one tells me I'm off key. Simply I can be myself and no one can look at me weird. Great stress reliever |
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From: Karebear
Date: 03-13-2004, 07:29 PM (8 of 18)
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""You know how it is, one of your kids calls up and tells you something, or something out of the blue surprises you and is upsetting. What do you do when you are upset? "" I hang up the phone... I pause... I yell... I stammer... I go into the bathroom look into the mirror and realize that I have too many drags, puffs, and wrinkles... So.. I take a deep breath.. shout out some obscene word.. then I pretend to be someone I am not.. then I just laugh at myself... Works all of the time.. Of course.. I will confess in saying that I may chow down ice cream such as "Rocky Road" and announce to myself it is all in a day's work..  Karen Karen
http://www.dancingwicks.com "If you want to build a ship, don't herd people together to collect wood and don't assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea." --Antoine de Saint-Exupery |
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From: MariLynnTX
Date: 05-24-2004, 12:30 PM (9 of 18)
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I write it down and then I re-read it. Sometimes that makes me laugh. Neither my mother or my husband were the type who invited confidences. They were both very critical and very controlling, always telling others, especially me, what they should say, do, and think, so I learned to keep things to myself. If I'm still mad after I read what I have written, I usually just blow it off. I'm famous in my circle of family and friends for once remarking that "I have no patience with women who complain about their husbands not understanding them....I understand me and that's all that's necessary....the last thing I want is some damn man understanding me!" I don't want my children 'understanding' me either!. Marilynn
Life is a song...we give it harmony or dissonance.
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From: dmoses
Date: 05-24-2004, 02:49 PM (10 of 18)
MariLynn, you made me laugh.  It is very important to maintain our 'mystique'. And, we certainly don't want anyone to see us as predictable...  It keeps them on their toes, not being sure of what our next move will be!
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From: Magot
Date: 05-24-2004, 04:41 PM (11 of 18)
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For me the conversation keeps playing in my head and won't stop until I've been through every combination of answers that I can think of. Finally, I find it hard to remember what the original was. And I talk to Tony. love him, he has learnt after many years I actually just want him to listen, not offer solutions!
love and kisses, Jan
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From: MaryW
Date: 05-24-2004, 04:56 PM (12 of 18)
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God bless Tony. Barry thinks he has to offer a solution all the time. I have told him time and time again, all I want is a sounding board. Just let me blow off the steam, then I'll be sane again.
MaryW
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From: Magot
Date: 05-24-2004, 05:04 PM (13 of 18)
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It's a man thing, they need to solve problems. Trouble is it works against me sometimes when I tell him something is broken - he doesn't mend it because I haven't asked - just told him about it.... Keep holding up the placard "Just listen and nod.OK?" he might get there! love and kisses, Jan
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From: MaryW
Date: 05-24-2004, 06:22 PM (14 of 18)
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LOLOLOL. Thanks Jan.
MaryW
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From: MariLynnTX
Date: 05-24-2004, 09:21 PM (15 of 18)
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Donna, spoken like a true Texas woman! I am not in Friendswood any more, but it is just southeast of, and adjoining, Houston. I have moved back up to Bastrop, which is 23 miles east of Austin, where I lived for 20 or so years, and then lived in Bastrop for 15 years. My daughter Shauna bought my house in Tahitian Village in Bastrop when I moved to Friendswood for 3 years. Really liked it there and one son is there, but my daughter here and another daughter in Austin wanted me to move back up here, so they could take care of me if I got sick. I probably won't; I am excessively healthy! Was in Houston Saturday & Sunday at my daughter Lisa's and we all went to Katy, to son Lee's house for his 18-yr-old daughter's graduation party. MariLynn
Life is a song...we give it harmony or dissonance.
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 05-28-2004, 10:15 AM (16 of 18)
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MariLynn, I love your style. Not just a Texas women attitude, but a Women in general attitude. |
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From: MariLynnTX
Date: 06-05-2004, 04:05 PM (17 of 18)
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Susie, I like your attitude, too, and your motto...which I am following all too closely. Was down on Bolivar all last week and when we drove home (my daughter, sonIL and DGS) my A/C in my car went out. It is costing me about $1300 to get the compressor and fan replaced...I can't afford this! MariLynntx
Life is a song...we give it harmony or dissonance.
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From: weB2cats
Date: 07-11-2004, 12:00 PM (18 of 18)
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Hey, broody is just the mind conjuring up solutions. I am a problem solver by nature (I love crosswords, mah jong and all kinds of games involving plans of action). I think it comes from a shopper's strategy of being on the lookout for a good deal or the perfect pair of white slacks, say. I don't enjoy problems of course. And there is only so much energy one can mete out to the pursuit of solutions. I have learned to back off of requests I'm really not interested in and I tend to not get involved with family issues that don't directly involve me. You can't win those and you may get involved in something long-term. My standard reply to requests that are unreasonable, intrusive, or disrespectful is, "I'm not comfortable with That". I don't have to explain why because my comfort level is the issue and plainly stated. There's no arguing involved. Then I walk or knit, and mull things over. Knitting is so perfect for mulling.
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