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From: james.diane
Date: 06-20-2004, 01:36 AM (1 of 3)
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we went up to Liverpool yesterday for my sons 21st - he wanted a family barbecue at his grandma's house, so it was all arranged for 2pm. We arrived at 10.30 and left at 4 ( two and a half hour drive each way ), we all had a great time. One of my two brothers turned up with his wife, but my other brother and sister hadn't shown up by the time we left. My mum rang me later to say that my brother turned up at 6pm, and when my dad said he was disappointed that he hadn't turned up for the barbecue and to see me he took exception and ordered his wife and son back in the car and drove off. This really upset my parents ( both nearly 70). Then at 6.30 my sister turned up, and guess what? Mum and dad pretended they weren't in and wouldn't open the door!! This brother and sister are never very reliable, but I was disgusted that they didn't turn up for Andrew's 21st. They both live within a 10 minute drive, so there's no excuse. Should be interesting to see what happens today, as it's Fathers Day.....
Diane :)
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User: james.diane
Member since: 09-23-2003 Total posts: 100 |
From: weB2cats
Date: 07-03-2004, 02:53 PM (2 of 3)
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I come from a large family and have learned over the years to remain neutral in all family issues. You never can win when it comes to emotional scenarios. So, best not to entertain an opinion and remain as neutral as Switzerland. There may be a good reason for such blatantly late behavior. Some folks are socially inept. I know I would have at least phoned the hostess to let them know I was unavoidably detained. However, there does seem to be here more than meets the eye. My husband was cronically late to everything and I felt is was a ego problem he hung onto. It was annoying. And since I pride myself on being on time to functions, I simply went without him and he took a separate vehicle or didn't go. End of story. Did anyone offer an explanation as to the delay? That should be rich. |
User: weB2cats
Member since: 11-07-2002 Total posts: 232 |
From: mamahoogie
Date: 07-03-2004, 06:18 PM (3 of 3)
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Ahh the joys of being in a large family. I agree with weB2cats...the trick to keep your sanity is to stay neutral. I've done this all my life and I have always refused to be sucked into the other siblings feuds and squabbles. As far as them not showing up on time, well their loss. I think it's only fair to tell them next time what time the party starts and there will be no waiting for them. If they chose to come late or not at all, just shrug it off. I remember when 2 of my aunts decided they didn't like each other and if one was going to a family affair, then the other wouldn't come. One time they tried to get my parents to decide which one to invite and my parents said both were invited and they can each choose to come or not, but if they both came, they had to be civil with each other or ignore each other but no drawing the others into their fued. They both came and nothing happened. Violet I've decided to live forever - so far, so good.
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User: mamahoogie
Member since: 12-25-2002 Total posts: 461 |
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