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From: weB2cats
Date: 07-16-2004, 11:13 AM (1 of 6)
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An unfortunate incident with my care provider leaves me perplexed. My daughter & her best friend, and the friend's mother (my day careprovider) were at swim lessons. They are 1/2 hour lessons. The mom leaves them in class, drives away from the area to cash in cans for gas money (that's her story but I'm not believing it). When the girls get out of class, they're looking all over for her and getting scared. The mom shows up 5 min later (she says). Then when I relay the story to her and that my daughter cried in the telling, she's says "Oh, I was only 5 min late due to the construction going on down the street." The point is: don't leave the building at all! Duh. Return the cans after picking up the girls. Well, when I heard about that, I was p.o.'ed about it, you can bet. Especially after I gave her a $5 raise this week. She's done. I guess I'm more miffed about her cavalier attitude and lack of concern in leaving girls unattended at a large swim center than anything. She later has the nerve to tell me that my daughter is rude and she won't stand for it. Gee, if that were true, you would have been expected to tell me so I could address that issue. Then, I find out later that this gal is allowing her 13 yr old son to shack up with his girlfriend in the basement. Where the xbox, PS2 games and all the video stuff is where these girls play during the day. I just can't believe peope sometimes. And the father, bless his soul, works a 2am-2PM shift at the airport and knows nothing of the going ons in his own house. Am I overly concerned here? Doesn't matter. I don't want my daughter in this kind of environment when there are healthier alternatives. I realized a big difference between being a bonified day care provider (licensed through the school district) and the mom of a friend. The girls will suffer most as they are very close and care about each other a lot. I'll just let things cool down in the next few weeks and see what develops. The girls had 2nd grade and will now have 3rd grade together this next year. Just another summertime scenario. This too shall pass. |
User: weB2cats
Member since: 11-07-2002 Total posts: 232 |
From: MaryW
Date: 07-16-2004, 11:34 AM (2 of 6)
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Oh boy, I can relate. All too often did one of my kids bring home a friend whose parents were less than shall we say "attentive". I found out once my daughter had stayed all night with her friend with NO adult present in the home at all. When I said something the woman thought I was being nosy as to her activities. Not at all, I was worried about my own daughter. Sheesh. Needless to say there were no more overnight stays. My daughter understood but the other mother didn't! MaryW
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User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005 Total posts: 2542 
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From: plrlegal
Date: 07-16-2004, 12:46 PM (3 of 6)
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No, you are not being overcautious. Children left alone and unattended at various and sundry locations is the reason children disappear and are found molested, battered, dead, etc. in this day and age. When it comes to the supervision of your child, don't let anyone convince you that you are being too cautious, concernced, etc. I wouldn't want to my child at the mercy of a careless, thoughtless adult either. Patsy Patsy
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User: plrlegal
Member since: 05-19-2001 Total posts: 318 |
From: sewingrandma
Date: 07-16-2004, 06:40 PM (4 of 6)
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Yes, you should be concerned about the children being left on their own even for 5 mins. I work in a local jail and the number of pedophiles we have is disgusting, and the numbers are increasing. Some of them even talk about how easy it was to get the child to go with him/her. They hang around where children are and take advantage of those who do get left alone.
Brockie
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User: sewingrandma
Member since: 03-06-2003 Total posts: 432 |
From: MaryW
Date: 07-16-2004, 07:18 PM (5 of 6)
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If you feel funny about that person, imagine how your kids feel. They don't have the experience or self confidence that you have.
MaryW
owner/editor of Sew Whats New |
User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005 Total posts: 2542
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From: weB2cats
Date: 07-16-2004, 10:52 PM (6 of 6)
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thanks for all your replies. I feel vindicated now. My daughter never tells me the going ons over at "that house" but I could tell you some scary things about her sons. One tried to rib a liquor store, for liquor not money and he was only 13 at the time. My daughter knows if I hear any weird stuff, she will not be allowed back into that environment. And because she doesn't want to not be allowed to see her friend again, she says nothing. She is never to be in a house without adult supervision. Her dad came to be with her today and take her to his house for an overnight. Unfortunately, he was in the house 10 min before he was throwing up in the bathroom! He went a barbecue the night before and ate shrimp and beef. He thinks he shouldn't have mixed the two. He was driving home and hit a bump. The jarring hurt him, compressed discs in his neck and he was sick all night. (He has syringomylea and he gets secere headaches ad numbness in his legs from a spinal injury). He's had told a total spinal replacement and any bimp on the road can send him into excrutiating pain. He's only 50. After he came over, I was so shocked at the seriousness of his condition that I just caught myself. My problems, although well founded, are so insignificant compared to his. Kinda puts things into perspective. Eileen |
User: weB2cats
Member since: 11-07-2002 Total posts: 232 |
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