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From: grandmasue
Date: 12-18-2004, 03:13 PM (1 of 10)
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This past week I lost a dear friend. She battled cancer for 2 years and early in December got a clean bill of health. This past week she got a virus infection in her lungs and 24 hours later was gone. I have so many sewing projects and gifts-to-be on the cutting table waiting and I just can't seem to do them. Today we are getting our very first Christmas snow of the year and I was so hoping it would help me get motivated but it's not doing it. Anyone out there have a kick in the butt to get me going?!!?!?!? I know we can longer count the weeks to Christmas, we are down to days now! Grandma Sue
------------ At the end I am not showing up at my grave all pretty and well preserved...I am coming in sliding, yelling "What a ride!" |
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Member since: 10-26-2004 Total posts: 138 
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From: smith972
Date: 12-18-2004, 03:40 PM (2 of 10)
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I can understand not being in the holiday spirit....i have not been feeling it at all....but what got me motived was the thought that the children would not have anything to open on xmas morning....and since money is really short this holiday most of my gifts have to be hand made.... Jada |
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From: VickiH
Date: 12-18-2004, 04:45 PM (3 of 10)
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If your friend knew you were struggling to get motivated, what would she be saying right now?! She might not be here now, but she knows you need that kick and I bet she's shouting at you right now to get started! Other than that...just start! Tell yourself you will just do 15 mins, and then you can stop if you want to. Its amazing how many times you will work over that 15 mins just to get that little bit extra done. The Friendship Forum
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User: VickiH
Member since: 12-09-2004 Total posts: 11 |
From: plrlegal
Date: 12-18-2004, 07:21 PM (4 of 10)
I'm deeply sorry for the loss of your friend but I'll bet your friend is looking down now and putting her arms around you to give you a motivating hug. So, consider yourself hugged ((((((((((  )))))))))))))))) and get up and get to it!  Patsy Patsy
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User: plrlegal
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From: Mom of Six
Date: 12-18-2004, 11:14 PM (5 of 10)
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If the people getting the presents are close they will understand what you are going through. Give them an IOU & get done as soon as you can. Last year at this time I had no ambition for Christmas at all. but about 1 week before (I guess that's now) something hit me & I got moving. Most of my presents were store bought or baked though. I couldn't get motivated to finish sewing projects.
Barb
Happiness is having time to sew!! |
User: Mom of Six
Member since: 11-03-2001 Total posts: 1115 
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From: DorothyL
Date: 12-19-2004, 10:31 AM (6 of 10)
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Sue, I lost my Mother-in-law, my husband's dear aunt, his uncle and two very good friends this summer and find I am still grieving. I think you will just have to let yourself work through it. I'm not worrying about it myself. Of course, it's easier since I don't have little ones. But I didn't really take the time to grieve when my mother died and it still haunts me. That was 35 years ago and I don't figure I have that much time to deal with this loss so if I want to be a little depressed this Christmas I will. Since everyone in the family is feeling the same way it's kind of a quiet year. Dorothy |
User: DorothyL
Member since: 12-09-2002 Total posts: 3883 |
From: MaryW
Date: 12-19-2004, 01:33 PM (7 of 10)
Excellent suggestions from everyone.  You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of everyone else. I know it sounds corny, but it's true. This just really sunk in to my head this past year. MaryW
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From: Sewhappie
Date: 12-19-2004, 10:02 PM (8 of 10)
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I am so sorry for your loss.I know how hard is was for me to do it after the loss of my parents and a close friend. My dad died the day before fathers day and 6 months later I had my son, and that was 20 years ago. Don't be hard on yourself now, you do need this time to deal with your feelings. Each one of us has had to deal with our loss one day at a time, some will be good days some won't. You will know when it is time to move on. Just remember that your friend is now your Angel and is now watching over all those who she holds so dear. You CAN do what needs to be done each day because SHE is helping you, you just have to listen with your heart. May you both have a very special Christmas this year, she's in the best place anyone could ever be at this time of the year!!!! She was very lucky to have you in her life. Blessings
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User: Sewhappie
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From: paroper
Date: 12-20-2004, 04:07 AM (9 of 10)
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I'm soooo sorry for your loss. Deaths at this time of the year are particularly hard because in years to come as the holidays approach you'll think of your loss. I know when my dad died I was devastated. I would look around me and see people going on with life, having fun, and I seemed so cut off from everyone. You won't just get over this loss overnight and you shouldn't expect to. If you can throw yourself into something (like sewing or family), you may be able for forstall the grief but sooner or later you'll still have to go through it. Once you have gone through it, you'll still have times when it gets a little hard. Give yourself some time.
pam
Bernina 200e, Artista V5 Designer Plus, Explorations, Magic Box, Bernina 2000DE & 335 Bernette Serger, Bernina 1530 Sewing Machine, Bernina 1300 DC Overlock (with coverstitch) |
User: paroper
Member since: 02-03-2004 Total posts: 3775 |
From: grandmasue
Date: 12-20-2004, 11:35 PM (10 of 10)
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Thank you all for your many thoughts. Today was a better day so tomorrow I have promised myself just 15 minutes. Maybe that will be enough to finish those My Little Pony jammies the grand-daughter will love. And then on to the hat and scarf for the other grand-daughter. I know all about losing a loved one on a holiday. I lost my Grandfather on Valentines Day and my Father on Father's Day. It's getting so I am afraid to see a holiday come around for fear of who i will lose next! Grandma Sue
------------ At the end I am not showing up at my grave all pretty and well preserved...I am coming in sliding, yelling "What a ride!" |
User: grandmasue
Member since: 10-26-2004 Total posts: 138
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