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From: Chrysantha
Date: 04-01-2005, 05:00 PM (1 of 18)
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died yesterday. I took him to the vet, he wasn't acting right. They made me leave him (against my gut feeling NOT to). He died at lunch time (noon) and no one told me till 'I' called to ask how he was doing at 3. They had time to open up his stitches (without my permission) and poke around inside to see if it was the surgery that went bad (no) but they didn't have time to make a 1 min phone call to me....Or to even say, take him home theres nothing we can do...instead when I get there, we sit for an hour. Finally SOMEONE pokes her head in and asks if someone brought him to us, I said no. She brings him in a cardboard box, he'd been the fridge. Dumps the box on the table. So I stand there in the 'special room, no windows', pound the walls and scream till someone comes back. I ask where his blankets and carry cage are, 'oh yeah, we'll find'em'. They say they're sorry, but they got busy. Theres 3 vets, 6 vet techs, 4 receptionists an officer manager, 4 people who groom, one who cleans the place. And NO ONE COULD TAKE THE TIME TO TELL ME. I sat in my house, waiting for someone to call me from 9:30, 3...nothing. I didn't want him to be alone...I knew it, I just knew....I should have kept him with me and we'd both have been better off. People who have pets, always have that special one...Bob was that one for me. He was my baby from the first time I saw him. He knew if he wanted a cuddle all he had to do was ask. (and he would 3-4 times a day, when he wasn't out playing. He'd stand up in the cage, hang on the bars and go 'Mom' Bob needs a cuddle'...) My husband always was trying to capture his 'smug' look on camera. If I was holding Bob and we were doing a 'job' (like taking the paper to the neighbors, or shredding paper in the shredder (Bob liked a 'job') he'd get this smug look on his face, like 'my Mom has me and I'm the ONLY ONE, so poo on you'. He would follow me and wait at the doors for me. He gave great smoochy kisses...I'd don't know what I'm gonna do without him and his happy little furry face. (he always looked like he was smiling and he was the happiest ferret I've ever seen) I'm mad at myself...the vet and whatever happened. (he was doing so well, he looked great, acted fine, was eating, etc....then boom within 3 hrs he was sick) I'm so sad I can't stop crying. (we couldn't bury him till this afternoon. we had 36 hrs of non stop rain, thunder and lightening). So I sat and talked to him most of the night and most of today. (till my husband came home earlier than usual and caught me...luckily he understands I'm a nut for my animals.) Thank you all for listening. I just have to keep telling people. I don't know why...I think because it happened so fast and I didn't have time to prepare. (not like with the other 3...thats 4 ferrets dead of cancer in 18 mnths.) Chrys
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User: Chrysantha
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From: MaryW
Date: 04-01-2005, 05:40 PM (2 of 18)
Sorry Chrys.  I'm so sorry.
MaryW
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Member since: 06-23-2005 Total posts: 2542 
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From: smith972
Date: 04-01-2005, 06:12 PM (3 of 18)
| I am so sorry for your loss..... |
User: smith972
Member since: 09-10-2004 Total posts: 241 
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From: carman
Date: 04-01-2005, 07:35 PM (4 of 18)
| we put our dog down last October and the other will likely be put down in the next month or so (after 16 years) i still get choked up if i have to talk about him to much or see a picture and look at it for any lenght of time. i know what you are feeling, my heart aches for you. pretty soon all the good memories will be there, i know that is what i think of now when i remember him. |
User: carman
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From: SummersEchos
Date: 04-01-2005, 07:38 PM (5 of 18)
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So sorry to hear of your loss. Summer Summer
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From: M & M's Mom
Date: 04-01-2005, 07:41 PM (6 of 18)
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What an awful experience. So sorry to hear how it was handled. No wonder you're sad and upset. Bob was sooooooooooo lucky that you picked him to be "your boy". Animals hold a place in your heart that nothing else can, don't they? Wish I could put my arms around you and give you a shoulder to cry on. 
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User: M & M's Mom
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From: beachgirl
Date: 04-01-2005, 07:48 PM (7 of 18)
| I'm so sorry for your loss. A number of us know how you are feeling. You'll never forget your special one. I still think of the 2 special ones I lost. I rocked my german shepperd for 2 hrs while she died. At least I was with her & consoled her until the end. The other one we'd had since a baby & he had to be put down after spending a fortune to try & make him well. We all cried for a long time over him. Pets are part of the family & it is a big loss when something happens to them. You'll never forget your little dear friend. |
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Member since: 08-31-2004 Total posts: 615 
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From: plrlegal
Date: 04-01-2005, 08:35 PM (8 of 18)
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Chrys I am so sorry about Bob. Loosing a beloved pet is a very excruciating experience. When we had to put our little girl Mercy Jane to sleep a few years ago after 12-1/2 years, I thought my heart was broken forever and that I could never love another little girl again but guess what? Ms. Sophie has healed the empty spot in both mine and my dh's hearts. I cried for weeks but then there came a day when I could start laughing about how cute and spoiled she was and I know that day will come for you also. Patsy Patsy
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User: plrlegal
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 04-01-2005, 08:36 PM (9 of 18)
| Sorry Chrs, Just think he's out of pain. I know that's no consolation to you now. Remember the time you did have with him and the others. You know you took good care of him it was meant to be. |
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From: allie-oops
Date: 04-01-2005, 11:25 PM (10 of 18)
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Oh sweetie what an awful experience. I'm SO sorry. Yes, our pets have such special places in our hearts, they trust us unconditionally and bring so much joy! I'd write a long letter to that vet and let them know why you're not coming back. That is just inexuseable. I'm so angry for you and Bob. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Chrys))))))))))) ))))))))))))))))))))))) "onward through the fog"
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User: allie-oops
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From: DragonLady
Date: 04-02-2005, 01:36 AM (11 of 18)
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What a heartless veterinarian! I can't believe your pet was treated so callously and that they acted like he wasn't important. I would find a new vet right away. I know many people believe animals that aren't cats or dogs don't count, but a vet should know better. I'm so sorry for your loss. I completely understand how you must be feeling, and sure wish I could say or do something to ease the pain. The only thing I can think is that I'm sure Bob had a wonderful life with you; and that he knew he was loved every minute of it. "No more twist! No more twist!"
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User: DragonLady
Member since: 11-10-2004 Total posts: 152 
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From: Chrysantha
Date: 04-02-2005, 02:08 AM (12 of 18)
 Thank you all so much. (I'm up again...I just can't sleep, sleeping pills, benadryl, nothings working..too upset I guess)I had time with the others to prepare. They were all sick for at least 6 mnths. (hand fed, pills, etc...) I didn't get that with Bob. Sick on sat, surgery on wed., fine till the next thursday and that was it. 13 days...I'm just glad I got to baby him all the time. ( all my animals are babied, but Bob was babied more than the others.) I've already yelled at the vet, one of the techs, one of the receptionists. I'm going to write a thank you note, with a twist. Monday I'm looking for a new vet (truth is I doubt I can find one...ferret vets aren't all that common....I was lucky I had this one. The vet who owns the place where I go, doesn't like ferrets, it's one of her 'associates' I've always dealt with. Actually I think the owner doesn't like -me- personally. She never speaks to me. (because once I told her I knew one of my other ferrets was ill (before Sr Steve my vet worked there) and that she wasn't doing enough to help me. My ferret then , Monster, had an insulinoma (cancer of the pancreas), she told me to change his food...I said RUN SOME TESTS, but it was too late. She didn't listen to me and I told her off.) Dr Steve is nice, but is a bit scatter brained. He's good with my animals, great surgeon, but I think sometimes vets get a little callous and thoughtless. (some people Drs do too) It's not THEIR pets, they're just doing a job....but we're paying the price. I'm not a deadbeat Mom. (they knew that....and always remarked that I was one of the best, because I paid and didn't complain all the time.) Animals, people, cars, houses, everything costs money for upkeep...why complain if it's something you need. But you'd think since you pay them, they could show a little compassion for the furry critters they're supposed to take care of.... Thanks again everyone...I guess I just need to talk , walk , scream, yell and cry...a LOT. Kath Chrys
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User: Chrysantha
Member since: 09-06-2002 Total posts: 2414
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From: Serenity
Date: 04-02-2005, 10:46 AM (13 of 18)
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Hello Chris, There, there dearheart, ((((((((((((((((((Chris))))))))))))))))))))))). I know you are sad and they treated "your boy" so bad. And you too for that matter. What is this world coming too? Our pets are not just pets, there are family. When we moved into our new apartment this week I remember looking at the lease and smiling. Our baby "Sheba" is on the lease. How nice it was to see that the owner loved dogs. He has a mastif and felt sheba would be perfect for the apartment. What a relief for us that she dd not have to be placed at my sons home. Sheba is a 2 and a half year old mixed breed dog. Very peculiar this sheba is. She is half pure breed doberman and half pure breed (of all things) pekinese! So funny looking and so many allergies it is unbelieveable. Takes medication every day just to keep her hair from falling out. She can not even eat beef! But we love her dearly. And we lost our baby "Rusty" so tragically a few years back. I still hurt when I think of him. So I know how you must feel. You and your family have our deepest sympathy. I pray that your heartache heals in time and gives you ease in knowing that she is still watching over you. That no one can erase the wonderful memories and love you hae poured onto "your boy". Hold onto those things Chris. Arub "The struggle is not greater than the goal". Be blessed. Stay encouraged.
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User: Serenity
Member since: 01-12-2005 Total posts: 85 
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From: Sewhappie
Date: 04-02-2005, 11:40 AM (14 of 18)
| My heart was breaking while reading your post. I am so sorry for your loss, I wish there was someway to make the hurt go away. I know what it is like to lose a "furry family member" so suddenly. |
User: Sewhappie
Member since: 10-27-2001 Total posts: 1427 |
From: wild800
Date: 04-02-2005, 01:52 PM (15 of 18)
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I am very sorry to hear about the loss of Bob, it is always hard to lose one of our furry little friends, but I hope that you can find comfort in the knowledge that he is no longer suffering. As for your Vet's office, I don't understand how something like that could have happened to you. Over the last twenty years I have lost a few kitties and one dog, only one was unexpected. My cat Rocky passed away after receiving anesthesia (sp) in preparation for a biopsy. He had been sick for about a week, went off his feed and then developed difficulty breathing. We were informed immediately, and given the option of having an autopsy to determine the cause of death. If you aren't able to find another Vet who cares for Ferrets, I do hope that you can impress upon him and his staff the need to re-assess their procedures for notification in these types of situations. |
User: wild800
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From: Magot
Date: 04-02-2005, 02:31 PM (16 of 18)
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You know where i am at, honey.
love and kisses, Jan
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From: Bama
Date: 04-02-2005, 06:26 PM (17 of 18)
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I'm so sorry to hear that Chrys. Don't blame yourself for leaving him at the vet's. You were trying to help him. I would definitely let someone at that office know how inconsiderate everyone was. I hope you'll feel better soon and can start smiling again when you remember him. |
User: Bama
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From: mamadus
Date: 04-06-2005, 02:23 AM (18 of 18)
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Chrys... my sympathies on the loss of your buddy BOB... it is painful to lose our buddies...they become such a part of our lives, and the behavior of the associates in your vet's office is totally unacceptable... I think I'd definitely have to speak to the owner and if I didn't get the response that I felt was appropriate, I'd be contacting the local newspapers.... not to mention the Better Business Bureau... their behavior was cold and callous... not at all professional. It can be very difficult to find a vet for unusual pets... I have a 2 pound chihuahua who requires a vet experienced in dealing with very tiny animals so I do understand... You might want to contact the nearest Veterinary school and find out if they have a relationship with any of the vets or vet hospitals in your area... usually a vet who has an ongoing relationship with a veterinary school has good practices and is up on the latest techniques and methodologies... just my 2 cents... MO life is too short, not to explore
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User: mamadus
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