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From: Bama
Date: 06-06-2005, 01:56 PM (1 of 10)
This made me so mad.  I went shopping with my 17yo niece a couple of days ago. We were at the register at a department store. She was in line in front of my daughter and me. Two middle aged men got in line behind me. One of them said, "Check out the girl in the blue t-shirt." I knew they were talking about my niece. One of them walked around me and leaned around to get a closer look at her. He was a foot from her face. She gave them a dirty look. Then the men started talking again. "Oh Man, look at that. Check out that body. Ask her if she wants to go out." One kept saying, "Oh man, oh man" I'm sure they didn't realize she was with me or I think they would have kept their mouths shut. I put my hand on her shoulder and said "These two OLD men are talking about you". Then I turned to them and said, "She's only 17 years old!" Before I could finish and tell them how obnoxious they were, my niece said, "Yeah, you're older than my dad." and she pulled me out of there. I hope they were embarrassed because everybody could hear us.  It still makes me mad thinking about it. I should have said more. Stupid Jerks. |
User: Bama
Member since: 03-21-2000 Total posts: 2116 
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From: Sewhappie
Date: 06-06-2005, 01:59 PM (2 of 10)
| I don't know if I could have kept my cool, I just might have decked them right there and them asked questions later. |
User: Sewhappie
Member since: 10-27-2001 Total posts: 1427 |
From: SummersEchos
Date: 06-06-2005, 02:11 PM (3 of 10)
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Oh my does that bring back memories. Raising 3 girls I have gone through that more times than I would care to go through again. Sometimes the male's just stared and kept following, others times I could hear their comments. Think this is going to be something that goes on and on till the end of time. Summer Summer
FREE FALLIN |
User: SummersEchos
Member since: 09-29-2004 Total posts: 884 |
From: DorothyL
Date: 06-06-2005, 03:35 PM (4 of 10)
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Those same guys would flip if they heard someone talk about their daughters that way. Creeps. Dorothy |
User: DorothyL
Member since: 12-09-2002 Total posts: 3883 |
From: Chrysantha
Date: 06-06-2005, 03:39 PM (5 of 10)
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I would have got the clerk to call the manager. Or whipped out a cell phone and called the cops. Harassment is harassment and it's against the law. She's under age and the men should have been taught a lesson. I had a weird man follow me in Wally World one night. I called the management and he got booted out. There are just too many weirdo's in the world these days. Chrys
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User: Chrysantha
Member since: 09-06-2002 Total posts: 2414 
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From: grandmasue
Date: 06-07-2005, 09:55 AM (6 of 10)
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I can feel your pain, only with a slightly different twist. I have a 15 year old DD. She is an honor student, she volunteers at a hospital, the kids she has babysat for in the past come and give her hugs years after she quit sitting them and the ones she sits for now love her. When I have a stiff neck from too much sewing(can that ever happen!?!?!?) she gives the best neckrubs! And right now she has purple hair, (last week it was orange) She like to wear two different socks and sometimes 2 different shoes too. She writes all over her jeans and she has been known to wear combat boots with a dress. Sometimes she likes to wear Egyption eye makeup and oh yes, and don't forget the safety pins or nuts and bolts in the ears instead of earrings. And I can hear the comments from the other moms in line talking about her. and sometimes I have the courage to tell them to not judge her before they know her. And how proud I am of her that she is willing to express her individuality and not just follow the pack like a bunch of lemmings running toward the sea cliff. Othertimes I just shake my head and feel sorry that some people feel it's okay to be so rude to either a nice looking girl as your niece or an individual as my DD Grandma Sue
------------ At the end I am not showing up at my grave all pretty and well preserved...I am coming in sliding, yelling "What a ride!" |
User: grandmasue
Member since: 10-26-2004 Total posts: 138 
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From: Sewhappie
Date: 06-08-2005, 12:19 AM (7 of 10)
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I've always told my DH, "If all they (our kids) do is wear strange outfits and strange hair styles and colors. Then I'm not going to complain. Hair can always grow back out, colors can always change, and clothes can always be traded in for the next lastest fashion statement at the Goodwill. It's just a passing thing. Doing this does not make them a "BAD" person, it makes them "THEMSELVES"!!!! Leaders, not followers............ (I just hope they lead in the right direction!!!!) |
User: Sewhappie
Member since: 10-27-2001 Total posts: 1427 |
From: DorothyL
Date: 06-08-2005, 07:50 AM (8 of 10)
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Grandma Sue- I like your daughter already. I really like the colored hair. Mine poked a hole through her eyebrow and caused a huge scandal in this little town. Kinda ticked her mom off too. It's a long story but she ended up winning an award from the ACLU for standing up for her God given right to have a hole in her face. The tattoo on her foot was tough for her mom to handle but she says there is makeup to cover when she is in court. She hopes to spend a lot of time in court now that she graduated from law school. A lot of kids go through that looking like an "individual" stage. As someone who was a teen in the 60s I remember that. They out grow it and become the most talented members of society. Well, some out grow it. Others don't out grow it and become the most talented members of society. Others go to jail. You just can't judge a book by its cover, can you? Dorothy |
User: DorothyL
Member since: 12-09-2002 Total posts: 3883 |
From: Bama
Date: 06-08-2005, 12:34 PM (9 of 10)
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We have a neighbor who is alot like that. She and my daughter visit with each other occasionally. They go to different schools. She always has colored hair and dresses in a different way with alot of dark clothes and safety pins. She writes on her jeans alot too. My daughter thinks she's "cool" even though they are so different from each other. I think she just likes to be different from everybody else. She's very creative and really into music. We've run into her in town before and saw the looks she gets from some people. They don't know she's really a great kid. After the other day, it makes me more nervous about my niece being out somewhere alone. Too many jerks and weirdos out there watching them. I really dread when my dd gets old enough to drive somewhere alone. I'm sure some of you have seen on the news about the Alabama girl that was vacationing in Aruba with her senior class and has been missing for over a week now. |
User: Bama
Member since: 03-21-2000 Total posts: 2116
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From: DorothyL
Date: 06-08-2005, 02:47 PM (10 of 10)
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Bama -- Your niece can't stop living because of the way men are. Women have lived (and sometimes died) with men like that since the beginning of time. Not that there are not predatory women -- but not nearly so many, it seems. When your daughter gets older you are just going to have to bite the bullet and hope she is smart enough and lucky enough to survive. It's hard. I know. I've been living for three years with a daughter riding the New York City subway all times of the day and night. Dorothy |
User: DorothyL
Member since: 12-09-2002 Total posts: 3883 |
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