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From: akire
Date: 07-15-2005, 03:23 PM (1 of 10)
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Hey all...I'm suffering from a bit of mom-burnout (that's an understatment) and have decided that every six months (seen as my husband and I have had only 2 vacations in 6years) I will go away for a weekend, by myself. I am a bit isolated from family where I live, and my husband and I are home bodies. And so all being great, I just hit a point every now and then when I feel the need to flee! Anyway, I don't want to get into the 'needing to flee' part, I'm good with all that, but wondered, do any of you with families ever get away by yourself? If so, what do you do, where do you go? Thanks for your thoughts. Gail |
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From: Chrysantha
Date: 07-15-2005, 04:21 PM (2 of 10)
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I don't have a family, but sometimes you HAVE to get away from them. I used to rent a hotel room for a weekend and not tell anyone where I was. Or just go off with a friend.... Now I go to my sisters (3000 miles away) someone knows where I am, but I don't have to take care of my house, I get away from whatever problems are making me insane (it doesn't take much these days). I get to see something DIFFERENT and I get to spend time with my sister...and I don't have to cook, clean or pay bills.... Chrys
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From: Bama
Date: 07-16-2005, 12:07 PM (3 of 10)
I wish I could do that.  I was invited to go on a 3 day trip with a friend and hubby and kids had a fit. "Who'll take me to karate?" "Who'll take me to gymnastics?" "You know I work too many hours to take the kids to practice" You would think it would have been for a month. I wasn't really set on going anyway, it's just the point that I couldn't.I just get away to my sewing room. I think it's great if you can get away like that. 
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From: akire
Date: 07-16-2005, 01:46 PM (4 of 10)
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Its not going that is any trouble for me, I'll just say "Im going" and that will be that. Its where to go, and what to do. Since having kids my life got smaller and smaller until all my hobbies and 'me time' take place at home. And that was necessary to reduce stress for me, but now unfortunately it means I have nothing outside the home to go and do. And not having been part of any group/team/organizations for so long, I'm for the most part, not interested. BUT I STILL NEED TO GET AWAY..TO SOMETHING. Is all...lol. I could always go to my parents alone, but I'd rather find something a bit more 'for me'. I guess I"ll try to find some workshop or weekend learning opportunity in some art/craft that interests me. |
User: akire
Member since: 03-06-2001 Total posts: 61 |
From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 07-16-2005, 01:47 PM (5 of 10)
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Everyone deserves a getaway now and then.. Bama, your family needs to learn that you deserve consideration also.. Back when I was a young wife and mother, I needed a getaway every so often.. Housekeeping, motherhood and worrying about money got to me..So, about once every 5 to 10 days, I would say , "I'll be back in a couple of hours or so.." and I would go to the public library and sit and read for an hour or two.. That was all I could afford, at the time.. I could not even go for a long drive.. (gas costs money)... That was the quietist place I could go for free and be totally taken away from my worries and do a total escape..(In books).. I still love the library, because I cannot afford to buy all the books I love..As times got more affluent, it changed to afternoon or lunch with the girls, or maybe a movie or shopping.. I still remember those hours in the library with fondness..
Sew With Love
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From: DorothyL
Date: 07-16-2005, 04:02 PM (6 of 10)
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Gail, and other young mothers -- Are you catching the theme here? You need and deserve that time -- take, don't ask, for it. After all, who would haul the kids around if you went over the top? And if you take it in small doses you won't need longer times out -- at least not as urgently. The ones I always felt sorry for were the single mothers that absolutely can't take time out. When my kids were little I worked at home but had to attend a lot of evening governmental meetings for the newspaper. Sometimes I felt like those long, boring meetings were a vacation. At least I could cuss in "old English" rather than baby talk -"Oh, poop!" Dorothy |
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From: MaryW
Date: 07-17-2005, 07:59 AM (7 of 10)
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I absolutely understand where everyone is coming from. I have found even an afternoon with a good friend will often do the trick. I love to window shop and try new foods too. It doesn't cost that much and the change in atmosphere does wonders. You can get such a different perspective.
MaryW
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From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 07-18-2005, 07:01 PM (8 of 10)
A group of us here help out in that respect , Dorothy.. We offer single parents a few hours a week "off" so they can relax and rejuvenate away from the strain of responsibility which can be so heavy when it is not shared.. Most of the time , it has been so gratefully accepted.. One young mother thought we had ulterior motives, though, and refused to let us anywhere her children.. I suspect she had a bad experience somewhere along the line.. One young mother just wants time to go grocery shopping alone.. Boy, I can identify with that! ! ! I remember those days.. My youngest used to beg for --Broccoli--- . Bet you thought I was going to say candy.. A little old lady asked me one day, if she had heard him right?? I had to laugh and say yes, he is a broccoli freak.. 
Sew With Love
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From: DorothyL
Date: 07-18-2005, 07:53 PM (9 of 10)
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That's wonderful Libby, helping single parents. Raising kids is tough enough with two parents, with one has got to be so hard. Dorothy |
User: DorothyL
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From: Magot
Date: 07-21-2005, 02:18 PM (10 of 10)
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Since we reached the point of realising that if we didn't get a break from our kids we would go barmy, Tony and I have made a point of getting away together and leaving them behind for some quality marriage time. We either use vouchers collected from grocery shopping to run away for a hotel break in a town or city we would like to visit, or take the caravan(trailer) away to the country. Either way I love wandering around and seeing the sights - doesn't cost anything to admire the view. Fish and chips from Aldborough on the shingle beach of Norfolk, magic! Stomping over iron age hill forts, climbing up ancient chalk downlands, exploring stone circles, admiring the architecture of my varied land - there is plenty to do on foot. We were scuppered last weekend away in that I had food poisoning and spent the weekend throwing up (and I desperately wanted to go fabric shopping). Sort of puts a damper on the romantic notions... we are gong away for 2 weeks together this summer - lovely! For time alone I work less hours than Tony so have some me down time at the end of the week. I also have a happy time window shopping and buying new makeup after I have had my hair cut. I'm looking forward to that next week. Term ends Friday and daughter is off on holiday - having her around the house all the time is starting to wear on me. love and kisses, Jan
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