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From: Bama
Date: 09-22-2005, 06:17 PM (1 of 15)
A lady I work with has been collecting items for Katrina victims in Mississippi. Her husband and a group of men from their church drove one truckload of items down over a week ago and are making another trip this weekend. I sent several things on the first trip and she told me things her husband had told her about the people there that have lost everything. People were lined up to get the things being passed out. Alot of them were living in tents on their property where their houses used to stand. She said some of them have asked for blankets and bedding.
I just finished a child's quilt that I was going to send to Houston, but I decided to donate it to their cause instead. I like the idea that a child there could have a special quilt of their own.
Anyway, I gave it to her today and she was thrilled I donated it. Then her GROWN daughter came in and saw it. She kept hugging the quilt and talking about how much she liked it.
As I was about to leave work, she told me that her daughter wanted to know if she could trade it for one of her (daughter's) kid's quilts and sent HER old quilt with the husband to Mississippi. I thought she was kidding at first, but she wasn't. I said no and explained I wouldn't have even made the quilt if I hadn't wanted someone that was a hurricane victim to have it. She laughed and told her daughter, well, she said no, you can't have it. Her daughter kept hugging the quilt and saying she wanted it.
After I got home and thought about it, now it makes me mad. Maybe I should have taken it back to make sure someone in need really gets it.
How could anyone be so selfish. :nc:
I'll probably never know for sure if her daughter keeps it.
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From: MaryW
Date: 09-22-2005, 06:46 PM (2 of 15)
Oh boy Bama, what a situation. I would have done the same thing as you. It does make you mad, doesn't it. :sick:
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From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 09-22-2005, 07:22 PM (3 of 15)
This is probably ugly, but I can't help it, its the whole truth.. If that happened to me , (something like it has) I would say very quickly, I will sell it to you , and give her a price about 3 times what it is worth..That way you could give more to the real needy.. The person involved will usually squawk, and then you say, I made it for a Needy person and you are not homeless and living in a tent with no more posessions.. Maybe it is my age, but I do NOT let these selfish young people embarass me into doing wrong things nowadays.. AT one time in my life , I was afraid ever to say no to anyone, but not now..Bama , I hope you find out that the quilt went to the needy..
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From: Bama
Date: 09-22-2005, 07:45 PM (4 of 15)
I'm hoping some child in Mississippi will get it. Now I wish I'd at least put a label on it with a little note. Then maybe she would have felt too quilty to trade it.
To me, sending a quilt I've made to someone is like sending a hug. I could have cleaned out my linen closet and sent some old blanket, and it wouldn't be the same.
This is really bothering me.
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From: SummersEchos
Date: 09-22-2005, 08:17 PM (5 of 15)
How horrible to have that happen. Know you made it for someone and gave it so that someone without a home would have something special. Keep that thought and don't let that lady destroy you gentleness and caring nature. If you later find out the daughter did keep it, then let the lady have it with both barrels.
Makes you wonder how much of what was donated the first time made it there?

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From: Chrysantha
Date: 09-22-2005, 11:38 PM (6 of 15)
I'd have taken it out of the daughters arms and ask her if she really needed to distroy someone else happiness because she TOOK what wasn't hers, a gift from YOUR heart. I think selfishness has it's own reward. Those who are truly selfish will never have anything worth value, because they value nothing.

Bama....we VALUE YOU. I hope the quilt made it to MS. but if it didn't, it's not your fault and you shouldn't feel guilty.

If you have the time and would like to make another quilt...I'd be happy to supply you with some fabric...just tell me what you want. I'm sure if we spread the word...we can get you more fabric...

PLEASE if we can help...lets us...

Kath [[[ ]]]
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From: Bama
Date: 09-23-2005, 04:57 PM (7 of 15)
yes, it does make me wonder if everything made it there the first time.

thank you for the offer, but I have a fairly large stash of fabric. Just not as much time. A friend of mine gave me a twin sized quilt top that her aunt gave her and she never got around to finishing it. I'm going to try and finish that one and send it. Maybe if it rains all weekend I'll be able to stay inside and work on it.
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From: Debby215
Date: 09-23-2005, 07:16 PM (8 of 15)
Does anyone have any idea of where some quilts can be sent? One of the sites Mary originally posted has said they don't need anymore. I have 5 packed and about 13 pillowcases. I feel bad that it took me so long to get them ready, now is it too late? :nc: :nc: :nc:
So much fabric....... So little time!!
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From: Catalina
Date: 09-23-2005, 07:31 PM (9 of 15)
That was very nice of you to make a quilt, and how rude the mother was- she should had told her daughter no - and that was not polite.
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From: Chrysantha
Date: 09-23-2005, 10:31 PM (10 of 15)

You can always donate them to a homeless shelter, battered womens shelter, AF Airmans Closet ( for those AF who were displaced) Take them to hospitals. (KIDS would love bright things for their rooms). If they're for adults.. (they might have to be big though...for the big boys... :bg: ) ask the woman who runs the site...she might like the pillowcases too...

you might try asking the RED CROSS...they might have some info.
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From: Bama
Date: 09-23-2005, 11:24 PM (11 of 15)
that's what shocked me so much. I can't believe she even suggested it to me. She should have told her daughter no and not even mentioned it to anyone else.

Quilts for Soldiers is a great idea. I wonder if any organization sends quilts to families who have lost a soldier in Iraq?

I think there will also be alot of people who could use a quilt after Hurricane Rita is over.
User: Bama
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From: DorothyL
Date: 09-24-2005, 09:01 AM (12 of 15)
If you are looking for a way to donate quilts try

They were collecting quilts for hurricane victims and probably still are. It is a very reputable business and always donates a share of profits to the charity of your choice from a list of several causes.

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From: Magot
Date: 09-24-2005, 09:29 AM (13 of 15)
I'm with you Bama, I think it is disgraceful that the woman even allowed her daughter to think she might get the quilt. Can't say no to your own daughter you are not going to have much of a home life! Don't let this dampen your compassion - the love and prayers in the quilt are not misplaced even if the item is.
love and kisses, Jan
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From: Chrysantha
Date: 09-24-2005, 09:02 PM (14 of 15)
I buy fabric from equilter ALL the time...GREAT company. They give to MANY causes.
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From: texas_angel
Date: 09-26-2005, 12:46 PM (15 of 15)
We still have evacuees at the Christian Camp here. I can get a phone number or address if anyone would like to send quilts here. Or I can send you my address if you want me to take them out there and make sure they are given.

I think there is a website for giving quilts to soldiers killed in the line of duty. I think it's called "Home of the Brave Quilts". I have an email addy somewhere. They do ask that the quilts be made of 1800's repo fabric though. If I can find the website or email addy I'll post it later. ( I don't know what I did with it :whacky: :coffee: )

Bama I hope the quilt did make it to someone who will truly appreciate it and the love that made it for them. I don't believe how inconsiderate she was to even ask you that.
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