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From: MaryW
Date: 11-14-2005, 06:39 AM (1 of 9)
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This was in today's. No, I am not affiliated in any way, just thought maybe someone could benefit.

Fail, Learn, Move On

Mistakes and failures are stepping-stones on the path to achievement. Failures can light the way to success. Nobody who challenges the status quo wins them all. When you are wrong, the most expedient form of action is to admit your mistake, learn from it and move on. All self-made businesspeople started small, made a lot of mistakes and built on the insights learned through hard work and continuing research. When they began, their ideas and goals may have seemed foolish and unrealistic, but they persisted.

Be prudent. Perhaps the smartest course of action is to retreat and reflect upon your options. Just because you deserve victory doesn't mean that you will win every fight, game or argument. Someone else may have the tactical advantage. Have the self-confidence to know when not to fight. The non-action of the wise man is not inaction. It is not studied. It is not shaken by anything. The heart of the wise man is tranquil. It is the mirror of heaven and earth ...emptiness, stillness and tranquility. Wise men don't fight each other.
owner/editor of Sew Whats New
User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005
Total posts: 2542
From: fairymom
Date: 11-16-2005, 01:41 AM (2 of 9)
Thanks for posting this! I just had my first dress sent back to me to restone and I was crushed BUT I did learn not to be a cheapo when it comes to buying stones for an elegant pageant dress.

I needed to hear this...thanks again!!
User: fairymom
Member since: 10-22-2005
Total posts: 18
From: bridesmom
Date: 11-16-2005, 06:57 AM (3 of 9)
Fairymom - question for you, what is stoning a dress? Is that beading or crystals and are they sewn on or glued on?
Tickled pink with my Innovis 4000D
User: bridesmom
Member since: 01-21-2004
Total posts: 2026
From: MaryW
Date: 01-17-2006, 09:58 AM (4 of 9)

Accept Differences

See each person as an individual and not as part of a group. All humans from all countries and cultures are equal without regard to race, color, creed or gender. Believe with confidence and trust that the vast majority of people whom you meet, befriend or do business with are more similar than different from you.

People are inherently good. Most people act in good faith. They mean you no harm and would assist you in time of need. Don't waste your time thinking otherwise. Do not become a party to rumor or gossip.

Reject stereotypes and the divisive and demeaning policies that group people into categories.
owner/editor of Sew Whats New
User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005
Total posts: 2542
From: Melanie T
Date: 01-27-2006, 01:22 PM (5 of 9)
I found this on a site where I buy denim blanks for embroidery

Hope it makes you smile and get going!

. . . . . Author Unknown

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. "I will come next Tuesday, " I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren, I said, "Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!" My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother." "Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.

"I was hoping you'd take me over to the garage to pick up my car." "How far will we have to drive?" "Just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this." After several minutes, I had to ask, "Where are we going? This isn't the way to the garage!"

"We're going to my garage the long way," Carolyn smiled, "by way of the daffodils." "Carolyn," I said sternly, "please turn around." "It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."

After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand-lettered sign that read, "Daffodil Garden."

We got out of the car and each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, we turned a corner of the path, and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns--great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.

"But who has done this?" I asked Carolyn. "It's just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well kept A frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory.

We walked up to the house. On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking" was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and very little brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958." There it was, The Daffodil Principle. For me, that moment was a life-changing experience.

I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun--one bulb at a time--to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top.

Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world. This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable (indescribable) magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time--often just one baby-step at a time-- and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

"It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!" My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said.

It's so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use today?"

. . . . . Author Unknown

Editorial Comments:

The Daffodil Principle applies to all aspects of your life, including your business. I started A Denim Shop in 1998 and had zero clients. Since I was only found on the Internet, no one other than me knew my business existed. It took 4.5 months for me to learn how to and build my first web site. Another 4.5 months after my web site was first published, I made my first sale. I made $5 in gross profit and was excited that I did. I knew if one person would purchase from me on my web site, others would, too. In the beginning I only sold retail to the general public. In 1999 I began to sell wholesale to companies like yours. Eventually, I dropped the retail end of my business to better concetrate on the wholesale side of clothing sales.

I slowly build a business one cleint at a time. In 12 months I had just over 1000 clients on my email list. Some of them still have never bought a thing from me and might never make a purchase, but many of them are regular customers and will provide me with a nice income as long as I am able to provide them good products and service, and continue to treat them with the respect everyone should expect. Today, July 7, 2001, I have 3704 clients and 5 - 15 new clients register everyday.

I built my business using the Daffodil Principle working long hours with little results. I knew that eventully my busiess would succeed if I kept building it. The Daffodil Principle with work for you, too.

Lee Fisher
4 little sewing machine mechanics (6, 4, 2, Born June 14)
Ontario Canada
User: Melanie T
Member since: 09-21-2004
Total posts: 155
From: Karebear
Date: 01-31-2006, 07:14 AM (6 of 9)
Hard work, love and dedication always WINS... this little story expresses a great of HOPE. Thank you.

"If you want to build a ship, don't herd people together to collect wood and don't assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea." --Antoine de Saint-Exupery
User: Karebear
Member since: 01-24-2002
Total posts: 338
From: MaryW
Date: 01-31-2006, 11:55 AM (7 of 9)
Thanks Melanie, it's a nice little story we should all remember.
owner/editor of Sew Whats New
User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005
Total posts: 2542
From: MaryW
Date: 03-16-2006, 09:11 AM (8 of 9)
Hopefully this will help someone build a better business.

You can go a long way by yourself, but you advance much better, much faster, with the help of others. Seek out others with a common purpose and help each other. Work through your mentors. Find them. Tell them why you admire them. Successful people will not be threatened by your enthusiasm for success. Sincerely ask for their help and often you will be rewarded with positive suggestions and the names of contacts. Carry and exchange businesscards. Rehearse a personal introduction that clearly and precisely states who you

are and what you do.

Form alliances for common purposes. Establish your own personal support systems. Where do you find good attorneys, physicians, investment advisors, dentists, tailors, or contractors? Ask those you respect for recommendations. If you have a computer, buy a contact management program, and as you meet new people, add them to your personal network database. Keep in regular contact with your network. Form your support systems and personal networks before you need them.
owner/editor of Sew Whats New
User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005
Total posts: 2542
From: sewjem
Date: 03-19-2006, 03:56 PM (9 of 9)
Sorry I have been playing around here with my message, It's an age thing. I had a message here but it got deleted.
Anyway I'm going to just let this go and move on.
So you can embaress yourself in cyberspace
User: sewjem
Member since: 03-10-2006
Total posts: 8
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