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From: Chrysantha
Date: 03-11-2006, 10:49 PM (1 of 13)
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When you got married did you have a big, small or no wedding at all ??? I was married by a judge, in his courtroom, with my little sister (she was 16 then, my little brother (he was 14), my husbands best friend (at the time) and us. I was in a beige skirt and blouse. Jimmy was in black pants and a blue shirt. It was the HOTTEST day of the year, of ANY YEAR , that day. 126 degree's outside. The judge sentenced us to 'life'.. Mike (Jimmy's friend brought me some carnations, otherwise it was just the 6 of us and rings....). 3 days later Jimmy left for the AF...no honeymoon either. We didn't elope...My mother didn't like Jimmy, my dad didn't care. I was stuck with my sister and brother, so they had to come along. Jimmy's parents never met mine, so if mine didn't go, they weren't going either. My grandmother got us a small cake and we ate it at her apt. (she didn't approve either, but at least she didn't tell me till later...and then it was too late). We were 23 (almost 24). We'd been 'going together' for 4 yrs. It wasn't like it was NEWS to anyone. We'll be married 28 yrs this yr...together 32.... Kath (as I left the house that day, yes my mother knew...she cursed me, in her mean little way she always did...that I would 'rue' the day and I would never be happy...I just looked at her and told her I was sorry for her and walked out the door.) 
Chrys
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From: MotherInLaw
Date: 03-11-2006, 11:00 PM (2 of 13)
Raymond and I got married in a church with 15 bridesmaids and groomsmen with all the bells and whistles they had back then. Honeymooded in Gulfport, MS at the Holiday Inn, stayed a week and a week later Hurricane Camile hit the coast of MS. Sure glad we left when we did. That was the first time I married him. The second time I married him which we were only divorced for 3 months, long story but we were young when we marrried the first time I was 17 and he just turned 18, anyway the second time we got married was in the convent of the church I got married in the first time and my wittness for that marriage was two nuns. Raymond the nuns, my Mother and the priest was the only people there for that one.  The priest said it was blessing my first marriage, in the eyes of the church I was never divorced.
I'm regressing back into my youth, I just have to figure out how I'm going to convience my body to come along with me.
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From: DorothyL
Date: 03-12-2006, 09:39 AM (3 of 13)
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I got married in the Heart of Reno Chapel by an Elvis impersonator. OK, the Elvis impersonator thing is a lie -- but it sounds so cool. The Heart of Reno is true. We both wore jeans. The witness worked in the chapel. My husband found a $1 slot machine before we got our room, so we honeymooned in the camper on the back of his pickup truck. It was all so lovely!!! We've been married almost 27 years. Our daughter was born 11 months later if you're counting. Dorothy |
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From: grandmasue
Date: 03-12-2006, 10:11 AM (4 of 13)
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Second marriage,small wedding, in church, no white pretty dress, we each picked a good friend as our witness. reception was held at my best friend's home, indoors and we had plenty of room to spare. Guess I don't like crowds focused on me. (First time it was very small too)
Grandma Sue
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From: beachgirl
Date: 03-12-2006, 10:44 AM (5 of 13)
First time I was 18 & he was 22. Huge wedding with all trimmings so to speak. Marriage was a huge mistake, I was more mature than he was. Second was a small church wedding, I wore a pretty lacey dress & he a suit. We were both 22. We have known each other since we were 6 yrs old & went to school together. We honeymooned in Omaha as my youngest brother was in the service there & wanted to see us.We had a blast & also met his intended. We will be married 40 yrs this April 23rd. He's a keeper for sure. 
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From: Sewhappie
Date: 03-12-2006, 11:03 AM (6 of 13)
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I was 26 and DH 27 when we where married December 27,1980 - also my Niece's 17th Birthday. It's been 25 years this past Holiday Season. We had met in April of 1980, the day after my Best Friends wedding in June 1980, DH proposed to me at a beautiful local park. I wore my Aunts Wedding Dress, (they where married on December 26th during World War 2, during the early 1940's also on the same date as my Grandparents wedding). My only Sister was Matron of Honor, the Birthday Niece was my Maid of Honor and then I had three bridesmaids. The Church was still decorated with the Christmas Tree and Holiday Decorations so it was perfect for a Evening Candlelight Service of 250+ people. It's a very good size Church with a Pipe Organ so it was my "Dream Wedding". Afterwords we had cake and punch in the CHurch Community Room. Our cake was made by moms two close friends who did it as a business for 12 years. My sisters wedding was their very first cake they made- mine was the last one they made for their Business,then they retired. The cake was FANTASTIC- my mouth is watering now just thinking about their cakes!!!!!! From there we went up the street to my parents house for a BIG FAMILY and ClOSE FAMILY FRIENDS buffet that my Parents, Siblings, Aunt & Uncle put together for us. I think that finally broke up in the wee hours of the morning. We opened gifts at my parents house, where they had been taken after the wedding, and then left for our Honeymoon in Central Southern PA. Nine months later, 7 lbs, 7ozs of 21 inches came into the world by way of C-section and fighting for her life. Now mind you with all the "female" problems that I had been having and always being told that "I WOULD NEVER HAVE CHILDREN" by Dr after Dr we where very suprised!!!!! Now she has been married 9 months and they are looking to buy their first house!!! I do have 2 Grandkitties and hope it stays that way for a few more years!!! Has it been a perfect marriage? No, but I wouldn't want it any other way. We have both learned and grown closer over the years from our past mistakes and fortunes. We have become eachs others best friend, I wouldn't want it any other way. Are we happy? Some days yes  , other days no  . We don't have a lot of money, but we do have a House of our own, 2 great children, our health and each other.
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From: Bama
Date: 03-12-2006, 12:21 PM (7 of 13)
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I was 21, hubby was 24. We had dated for 4 years. We had a small church wedding with about 35 guests, mostly family. I never wanted a large wedding. It makes me too nervous for alot of people to be watching me. Hubby said do whatever made me happy. We had thought about going to the court house, but my mother wouldn't have it and talked me into getting married in the church. Of course I broke out in little red splotches an hour before the wedding.  I wore a lace tea-length wedding dress, no veil. Carried red roses. Hubby wore a suit and tie. When we started to the reception hall after the wedding, it started snowing. We honeymooned in Tennessee. I keep telling hubby that we're going on a second honeymoon after our kids finish college.
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From: Magot
Date: 03-12-2006, 03:48 PM (8 of 13)
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Both 22 , just finished uni and my dad had been unemployed for some time so we had 35 people at the wedding. Our friends were there under the pretence of being part of the ceremony - best man, bridesmaid, photographer(2), driver for my Gran and Grandad, chauffeur(sp) - actually we used the bridesmaids car to drive me to the little converted Nissen hut of a church - the driver never telling the bridesmaid that the reason we went so slow was that he couldn't get the handbrake off. We decorated her Austin 1800 with ribbons nicked off the wedding presents and a plastic Union Jack. When Tony got to the church the registra was waiting there and he had to pay her the balance of the fees or she wouldn't let us get married - but she wouldn't take a cheque and he had no money so he had to have a whip round to borrow a tenner in order for the thing to go ahead. At this stage I hadn't realised that the bit we thought unneccessary and had cut out of the ceremony was the legal bit that had to go back in so I was hastly told on the way up the aisle that the service had changed and 'go with the flow'. The preacher was determined that he would never get this lot back in church again so he fire and brimstoned them for 40 minutes which was a touch embarrassing - especially as my Grandad fell asleep and woke up half way through with a loud cry of "Good God! Is he still going!" A sentiment echoed largely by Tony's sister who was about to bust a blood vessel if she was told just one more time that wives should obey their husbands - along with the rest of the feminists in the congregation. We had a dear little old lady play a squeeze organ for us (you had to pump the organ to make it go and squeeze your knees together on a couple of pedals for crescendo) Tony and I love to sing so we had some right belters and she went several shades of puce and the organ got progressively more and more asthmatic as time went on. The reception was back at my Dad's house where Uncle Jimmy (who hated my Dad) loudly announced his intention of only being there to drink all my dad's booze. We sat him in the hallway with a bottle of scotch to get started. My Dad refused to give a speech, which confused the best man as he had been boning up on wedding etiquette for weeks. The only thing I remember from Tony's speech it to make sure that the Luton fans in the crowd knew what the football results were. Later on Tony and I went next door but one to see the wedding presents - and watch Dr Who on the tele - along with the best man, my 2 brothers, drivers, photographers etc. My MIL came in and told us to get back to our guests - I looked around the room OUR guests were here - the rest were a bunch of relatives I met occasionally. Time came to change into our going away clothes and Tony discovered that he needed to go downstairs to get a pair of scissors. I hadn't realised until the day that the broderie anglaise was see though and so had no slip to wear under my wedding dress. I did, however, possess a flesh coloured nightie which needed me to be sewn into it to work with the dress so he had to borrow some scissors to cut me out...we then went downstairs and left the reception in the bridesmaids' car (she was driving) with the chief photographer(her fiancee) in order to get to our hotel in the New Forest. Well it was a pub actually, and our room was over the juke box. GaryNewman is forever emblazoned in my memory as the defining song of our honeymoon. That and the fact that the pub was next to the dairy so the morning whine of milk floats leaving at 4:00am was an accompanyment to out slumbers. As we had no car we bought 7-day-rover-bus-tickets and wandered over the county exploring. There is not a lot to do on a bus so we also bought a book of crosswords. How many people do you know who can say they did 96 crosswords on their honeymoon? In 4 weeks time my daughter is geting married - she is creating 'traditions' of her own (Grooms back garden, tying their hands together and feeding each other cake, jumping through a bonfire etc) who am I to say that she can't do what she wants? As a Christian I won't join in some of the pagan rituals but I will be there to witness her vows and promises and to wish her well and successful in her marriage - which is far more important than a wedding. Having said that - we have booked them a honeymoon in the New Forest and they don't have a car. Maybe I should buy them a book of crosswords... love and kisses, Jan
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User: Magot
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From: trini
Date: 03-12-2006, 04:30 PM (9 of 13)
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I too had a small wedding at twenty-four; It was a church wedding, I had one chief bridesmaid and another; there were all the rituals and trimmings of a large wedding except it was small. My husband got tipsy (did not drink generally) and kept apologising for that. Not quite as dramatic as yours Jan. Have you ever written a book? your posts are always so entertaining. The wedding certainly seemed like an adventure. Interesting life! Do start writing; you,ve got the talent. Leila. |
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From: MotherInLaw
Date: 03-12-2006, 10:21 PM (10 of 13)
Those two need bus tickets Jan. You forgot the tickets. Sounds as though you have a pretty normal dysfunctional family as the rest of us Jan  For my rehearsal party my Dad had to work, so when he got home all he could do was help the drunks that drank too much of the punch. Someone spiked the punch with champagne. My sister was in one room crying her husband and her had a fight so she got drunk, she never drinks ever, and my Brother In Law to be, was sick and throwing his guts up all over the place, and my Sister In Law was right there with him drunk only thing she wasn't throwing up. Now the wedding went off without a hitch. Those darn rehearsal parties will get you everytime. So when my son got married I led the charge, we skipped the rehearsal party and I took the girls for the bacheloette party to the French Quarters and got them all toasted and back home safely. That was one night I had to take them all to eat so I could sober up enough to drive. And I never drink!!!!!!! 
I'm regressing back into my youth, I just have to figure out how I'm going to convience my body to come along with me.
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From: plrlegal
Date: 03-12-2006, 10:43 PM (11 of 13)
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My dh and I were married the first time in 1960 in an evening service at the local Baptist Church with his best friend and my sister Brenda who is a year younger than I am. My mother did not want us to get married so wouldn't attend the ceremony so neither did my dad or dh's parents. We left for Fort Lewis, Washington immediately after the ceremony. I was car sick for 4 days and had literally turned green by the time he got me to the base hospital at Fort Lewis. Washington. We were married for 14 years and then divorced and remarried in 1994 in an evening ceremony in the Prayer Garden of my church in West Palm Beach, Florida with one of my younger brothers, his wife and only daughter standing with us and quite a few members of the chior I sang in being there. We stood on the prayer stone that my brother and I paid for and had dedicated to our dad who passed away in 1974. We left that evening for Oklahoma City where I've been for the last 11 years come this May 14th. It's like we've never been apart. Do we have disagreements, you betcha! However, because we were never emotionally severed, our love has grown stronger and we know it is blessed by God. Do we scream and fight? Not!!! In fact, the scary thing is that we almost read one another's mind most of the time. He'll call me at work just as I was getting ready to call him or he'll tell me the answer to a question I was going to ask him and I do him the same way sometimes. Some of us only have one mate for a lifetime, and that has been me. I did not remarry during the 20 years dh and I were divorced. He did and raised 2 step daughters but he has told me several times that he knew the minute our divorce was final that he had made the biggest mistake of his life. I've experienced both sides of the coin, married life and single life and I've had a good life both ways. Patsy Patsy
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From: Ann Made
Date: 03-13-2006, 10:56 AM (12 of 13)
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We were married May 15, 1970 and it was a small wedding in a small church, the way we wanted it to be. I was 20 and he was 26. I had 3 attendants and he had three. Family and friends took up most of the space and then came the relations. I had 2 relations in attendance, he had the rest. The reception was held at the local community hall with a few more friends coming to have a dinner my mom and mother-in-law made. My sister-in-law decorated the place which was down right ugly. My aunt brought up hundreds of tulips as mom's were late in blooming (cold spring). She had raided many gardens in her community and brought them up in buckets in the back of their car. Mom made the cake, a neighbour iced it, and my uncle decorated it. He made a heart shaped groom's cake that the guys ate after we cut the wedding cake (and the groom's cake also). My uncle gave us the toast and read it off a roll of toilet paper. My dad gave his talk about me and the best man said his speech and the whole crowd was in hysterics. We headed south to Olympia and had a second wedding reception down there. Our first child was born almost 4 years later as I went back to University (alone) to become a teacher and then taught school for a couple of years. We are known to argue but don't really fight. We support each other in what we want to do. Right now we are trying to sell our property so we can begin to think about retirement. DH is 60 and wants to move down south when I can get a job down there. He is tired of the long cold winters and I hate the short days. Would we do it the same way? Yes as that was the in way for a wedding in 1970. If it was today - no. I would have a western wedding, come in on horseback and have it outdoors. The invitations would ask that you bring your own lawn chair. I wouldn't wear a white gown; it would be something with a western flair. I don't hate my dress. My mom made it and it was exactly how I wanted it. She even sewed the lace onto my veil by hand. I have it in a box in the basement and haul it out every now and then to look at. It is a beautiful piece of workmanship. Mom also made my going away outfit and a couple of other outfits for our honeymoon. All the fabric was bought from the Eaton's catalogue, including the fabric for the bridesmaids' dresses. Learning is a journey, not a race.
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From: bridesmom
Date: 03-14-2006, 02:18 AM (13 of 13)
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My first wedding was a large one, with 4 bridesmaids and groomsmen. But the marriage didn't last. I was only 18, he was 22, we were way to young. We seperated after the birth of our 2nd child. My 2nd marriage was 19 years ago on Jan 1. We met in August of 86, married 4 months later. I was 32, he was 27. (cradle robber I am) We eloped to Bakersfield California and honeymooned with his brother and wife (who lived in Bakersfield). I bought a wrap around cream dress in Carmel to get married in. A sweet little Mexican pastor that had one of those 'wedding chapels' married us at DH's brother's house. My sweetie was the only person I knew at my wedding. I had never met his brother or wife, or her parents who were also there the day we got married. My SIL bought me some flowers and a cake, otherwise we wouldn't have had that either. Our honeymoon was a B&B tour of the wineries in the Napa Valley, drove down the coast to San Diego, did Disneyland for 2 days, and ended up in Vegas for a few days. My kids and my mom were the only ones who knew what we were doing. When we flew back to Canada my mom called to say she had accidently told his parents that we were getting married and they were very upset and didn't speak to us for 6 months. We've survived through 19 years, got to the point of splitting up twice, and its by the grace of God and our faith in Him that we have made it this far. He is a wonderful man (now) and I wouldn't trade him for anything. But I wouldn't get married again. I now have 5 great kids (he came with 3) and three wonderful grandkids. Laura
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