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From: Sancin
Date: 03-29-2006, 01:29 AM (1 of 15)
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Lets start a new sharing topic. When I was 28 years old (and a free single woman) I had a discussion with a male friend who asked me what the best age was for a woman. At the time I had some ideas, based on my previous, current and projected life experiences. I realize now that while I mentioned age I was really talking about what was happening in a woman's life and much of it may have been either idealized or imagined. So - what age do you think is the best age for a woman (or man, if they want to join in) and why do you think as you do? 
*~*~*~* Nancy*~*~*~* " I try to take one day at a time - but sometimes several days attack me at once."
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From: Chrysantha
Date: 03-29-2006, 01:41 AM (2 of 15)
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32...I looked great, felt great...(knew who I was when I was a kid so that doesn't enter into it.)(weirdness has followed me always, so experience doesn't enter into it either.) I felt 'free' at 32...I donno...for me it's THE number. (for some strange reason I'm feeling a deja vu here....cue the twilight zone music) 
Chrys
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From: Dexter
Date: 03-29-2006, 02:15 AM (3 of 15)
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Every new age I enter gets better and better. 18 was better than 17 and 21 was better than 20. Now I'm age 22 and I feel it is my best year so far. I am wiser, healthier, handsomer, more interesting, and my life is generally easier and I am living many of the dreams I had during my previous years. I am simply becoming a better person as time goes by. Hopefully this will keep up until my dying year. Excellent topic, by the way. Gets me thinking. |
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From: Bama
Date: 03-29-2006, 07:23 AM (4 of 15)
For me it is 40.  I feel better than I have in a long time. My kids are older and I feel free to do more things for ME now. (Not that I have alot of extra time, but I try  ) I feel more confident. I'm just enjoying life more. Hubby and I have worked hard for what we have and are enjoying having it now. I have more wrinkles and more gray hair, but I don't care.  I'm working on getting the extra pounds off. I speak up more now when I need to. I don't care as much now what other people think. My marraige is better than ever.  We're really looking forward to having an "empty nest" in a few years, but we're still enjoying our kids teenage years. MUCH different than having toddlers. 
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From: Bama
Date: 03-29-2006, 07:29 AM (5 of 15)
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Oh yea, had to add this..... A good friend of mine just turned 65. Since she retired she is doing all kinds of things she wants to do. She and her hubby go on trips all the time and yesterday she started taking belly dancing classes.  She said it was sooo much fun.I hope to have as much fun as her when I'm that age. 
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User: Bama
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From: Magot
Date: 03-29-2006, 10:26 AM (6 of 15)
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I am happy at the age I am (49)- but when giving blood the other year someone asked me how old I was and I replied "27" she looked at me a bit askance until I thought - "Hang on, my daughter is 20..." Really , I think I am about 12. Mths never was my strong point... love and kisses, Jan
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From: swartzrn
Date: 03-29-2006, 02:51 PM (7 of 15)
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This is a hard one-- I didn't enjoy turning 30 AT ALL. Don't know why but I cried the entire day. It was a fiasco needless to say. I have heard alot of women say that they are happier that they had their children in their 30's versus their 20's. I had my first one when I was too young and the baby at age 32. I think each phase of "motherhood" that I have experienced has been wonderful in it's own way. I would have to say all ages that I have had with my children and my husband have been the best. Often I hear women who had children at very young ages say that "I wish I hadn't gotton pregnant so young." But, for me, I think my child is wonderful just the way she is and if circumstances had been different, I wouldn't have the daughter I have. We are friends as well and I have often wondered if that's a good thing but the older she is, the happier I am that we are friends and not just mother/daughter. Having the little one in my 30's gave me alot of maturity that I didn't have when I had the oldest. I have grown up alot and realized alot of mistakes I made as a mother and because I'm human, I still make tons of mistakes.. I don't have alot of regrets about alot of things..I don't regret my ex marriage b/c it helped me learn alot about myself and about what kind of wife I didn't need to be and what kind of husband I did not need in my life. Probably that experience helped me "grow up" as well. So as far as an "age" I just don't know. I can look back on every phase of my life and see it for ups and downs and what I learned from it..some of it, I am glad is over but again, looking back, we always grow through the tougher times...just my opinion Julie
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User: swartzrn
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From: SummersEchos
Date: 03-29-2006, 05:04 PM (8 of 15)
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For me it is older than younger. I seemed to be always on the go when younger, trying to prove myself, trying to do what I was expected to do. Now I am 55 and I like this age. Sure I like the 20's, life was exciting then. I had more energy, a busy social life, children starting to come into the world. The 30's were less of a socail life, but busy with my children. The 40's watching all of my children start to grow up into young adults, going out on their own. I started to feel more relaxed, everything was going to be okay. Then I turned 50 and I was happy. It seemed like so much of the burden of trying to make it, had left. I was who I was and I liked me. Grandchildren started coming along and new joy was found. I had freedom that I hadn't had in a long time. I have a saying that I like alot and I feel this helps to describe me. My after forty face felt far more comfortable than anything I lived with previously. Self-confidence was a powerful beauty- potion; I looked better because I felt better. Failure and grief as well as success and love had served me well. Finally, I was tapping into that most hard-won of youth dews: wisdom. --Nancy Collins Summer
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From: Almajanesattic
Date: 03-29-2006, 05:59 PM (9 of 15)
In a few days I will be 69......and I have to say I like the age I am. The memories of our early struggles to farm and raise 6 children are really good memories and I remember wondering so many times how all these children would turn out. Now at this age I can look at them and see what they have become and I am impressed! And they all like, as well as love, each other and even though they are scattered to the winds (one of them even lives in Spain) they try to get together as often as possible. So I will welcome this year's milestone.......who knows, maybe I'll even like being 70 next year!  Sharon |
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From: esrun3
Date: 03-29-2006, 10:38 PM (10 of 15)
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I'm 51 and each year gets better. I loved having my children in my 20's and now I can enjoy my grandchildren. I have the freedom to do what I want without worrying about who is going to watch the kids, etc. I have great relationships with all of my children and see all of my grandkids often. There isn't an age thinking back that I would want to be again-a few moments I'd like to relive, yes, (holding your baby for the first time, etc) but to relive an age, no thanks. 31 was the bad year for me.....not that it was bad really, just harder to turn 31 for some reason, no other age bothered me. Lyn
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From: bridesmom
Date: 03-30-2006, 12:45 AM (11 of 15)
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I'm 51 as well, and I am really happy at this time in my life. I look good, feel good, have a great job, 5 terrific kids, 3 fantastic grandkids, and a super husband. We moved 4 years ago to BC and I love living here. I also have developed a relationship with my sister which I never had before, and I have the bestest best friend in the world!!! There's way less to worry about now, though some mornings I wish the aches and pains would go away. I don't feel the pressure I used to when I was raising my kids. I think it also really helps to have the husband happy in his job as well. He was very unhappy for a while, that made life at home less enjoyable. Thanks for starting this Nancy, made me realize just how good things are!
Laura
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From: swartzrn
Date: 03-30-2006, 09:35 AM (12 of 15)
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esrun3--30 was the hard year for me for some reason..I think it was perhaps I realized I was 30 yrs old, divorced at the time, sold my house, living in an apartment, etc and I just wasn't happy as I once thought I would be at 30..little did I know that just a bit later, I'd meet my now husband..life has a funny way of turning around just when you least expect it.
Julie
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User: swartzrn
Member since: 02-17-2006 Total posts: 436
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From: suesodyssey
Date: 03-30-2006, 10:00 AM (13 of 15)
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I turned 60 this year and feel better physically and emotionally than I have in such a long time. I too had children very early 19 & 23, so I grew up with them. They are all grown and moved to their own homes, 2 daughters have children (I love the grandkid thing) and son is finally out of his drug and drinking thing (I pray everyday that he doesn't fall back). My younger years were full of babies, diapers, runny noses and trying to please a man that couldn't be pleased. I too cried at my 30th birthday...in a three month period, my husband walked out, my father passed away, I turned 30 and my divorce was final. Another disaster of a marriage (after 23 years he decided he liked boys better). In my late 50's, I had a scare with my heart. Today, I am healthy, happy and about to start a new live on the road with my husband of almost 2 years. I look forward to our "later" years. Being together and doing what we want to do! Sue |
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From: swartzrn
Date: 03-30-2006, 10:10 AM (14 of 15)
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Sue--sounds like you have overcome alot of obstacles!! I just know that you are going to truly enjoy the years to come and spending time with your new hubby!! Here's to happiness!!
Julie
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User: swartzrn
Member since: 02-17-2006 Total posts: 436
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From: esrun3
Date: 03-30-2006, 09:24 PM (15 of 15)
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It looks from reading these posts that we are all in a good place now...we've all overcome obstacles in our lives but it is sounding like most if not all of us are happy with our lives....we have what we need, family, friends and love. That's what makes the world go round..not money. I spent many many years as a single mom raising 3 kids but always felt "rich" as long as we were able to have what we needed (not always what we wanted) and had each other to lean on and have fun with. Great topic! Lyn
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