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From: MaryW
Date: 06-02-2006, 12:06 PM (1 of 21)
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Fathers Day is in a couple of weeks. What is the one thing you remember about your Dad. My Dad has been gone since I was quite young. I remember he was a hard working, solemn, man who could read someone like a book after talking to them a couple of times. MaryW
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From: mozeyrn
Date: 06-02-2006, 12:37 PM (2 of 21)
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I remember my Dad carrying me around on his shoulders. I thought it was the coolest. I think I'm a little too big for him to do that now. - Maureen.
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From: Butterflyrf71
Date: 06-02-2006, 01:13 PM (3 of 21)
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I have two "Dads". One Father, One Dad. My Father, I remember bringing other women home when Mommy was at work. My Dad - I remember how he used to tease us kids into believing he could change the traffic lights from red to green. He would snap his fingers and the light would turn green! (Took me a few years to figure out he was watching the lights on the opposite side!). I named my son after my Dad. You Lord, give perfect peace to those who keep their purpose firm, and place their trust in you. Isaiah 26:3, AV
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From: Mom of Six
Date: 06-02-2006, 02:19 PM (4 of 21)
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My Dad was my Hero. He never let us feel poor. We didn't realize that we had less than other people because what we had was special. We had his time. Even when my Dad would work 12-14 hr. days he would always be home for dinner. He ran his own service station. We would go on sunday drives & take a picnic. He would find time to take us to drive in movies & even a trip to Mc Donalds was special. After my Mom passed away Dad took over her baking The kids wanted grandpa's cookies He would make them for school functions & parties whenever asked. He went to a lot of Senior function & all the ladies wanted his recipies. A favorite there was rice pudding. My Dad's birthday was 2 days before mine so we always had a special bond. I took care of him when he got sick for 5 months before he died. It was the most special time. He has been gone 2 1/2 yrs. now & I still miss him every day. Sorry this went so long but I could write a book on how special Dad was. Ther was no one like him. Barb
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From: Magot
Date: 06-02-2006, 02:34 PM (5 of 21)
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My dad was a little fat man - 5 feet 4" and 22 stone at his heaviest. We used to play the game of "stand on your Dad's feet while he dances you round the room". I felt like Sylvester Stallone in Cliffhanger I was leaning back so far. We always joked that we would never be able to carry his coffin - yet when he died of cancer he only weighed 5 stone. His coffin was so small. The weirdest thing was that I met my Uncle Dave (my Dad's big brother) for the first time at the funeral and he looked so much like my Grandad who had died a few years previous I was convinced the Grandad had popped in to the funeral. Surreal or what! love and kisses, Jan
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From: Domestic Goddes
Date: 06-02-2006, 05:14 PM (6 of 21)
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I've never met my father. He and my Mum had a wild passionate fling in 1967 and I was the end result. He then announced that he was married and was emigrating to Canada. She did a very brave thing and kept me - not really the done thing in the UK at that time, even in the "swinging sixties". My biological father visited the UK in 2003 and turned up at my Grandma's house but that was 275 miles away, I couldn't travel due to an injury, and he had a plane to catch. I still haven't met him. He lives in Vancouver and speaks little English. I therefore have no memories of him and I envy all of you that have, or have had, a Dad and enjoyed a loving and rewarding relationship. |
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From: Magot
Date: 06-02-2006, 05:19 PM (7 of 21)
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To be fair Dom, I have some happy memories of my Dad - but I cannot say it was a loving and rewarding relationship. I did, however, learn a lot about forgiveness.
love and kisses, Jan
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From: plrlegal
Date: 06-02-2006, 11:09 PM (8 of 21)
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To this day I feel very blessed to have a wonderful father who worked like a slave in the coal mines to give his 14 (9 girls and 5 boys) children everything he possibly could. He loved us all and if he were alive today would still say the minute we came in the door "somebody here hasn't given their Daddy a hug yet". He never told any of us or our mother goodbye, he only said "I'll see you later." He went home to heaven in 1974 and none of us have ever stopped missing him. I have a younger brother who looks just like our Dad, has the same mannerisms and he even sounds like him when he talks, so it's like he never left, he only took up life in my brother Fred. Patsy Patsy
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From: esrun3
Date: 06-02-2006, 11:15 PM (9 of 21)
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My Dad passed away 8 years ago and I sure do miss him. What I remember about him is that he was always, always involved in everything we did as children. Scouts-Boy & Girl, coached our softball team, taught me how to be a caller for Square Dancing and took me to lessons to learn to do the square dances. We never had a lot of money, but always had what was needed and he never let us feel poor. We would load up the station wagon with as many kids and friends it would hold, and take long day trips around the state on the weekends-picnic lunches in parts of the state I never would have gone to see if it hadn't been for him. He taught us to camp and fish and to love the land, he was fiercely patriotic and family was everything to him. He was always there for me and my siblings and loved his grandchildren and great grandchildren deeply.
Lyn
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From: GreenDragonLady
Date: 06-02-2006, 11:30 PM (10 of 21)
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From: Dede
Date: 06-03-2006, 09:29 PM (11 of 21)
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Dad is the kindest person I know. Even with the disease, he still has his sense of humour that just cracks me up. Today, we went to the supermarket to get eggs and bananas. He asked if he could carry something. Laughing I asked him if he was telling me I was old. His answer: No, but you're heading that way. I just love him. He's still my heroe. |
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Member since: 03-23-2001 Total posts: 469 |
From: Chrysantha
Date: 06-04-2006, 10:20 PM (12 of 21)
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My Dad didn't know anything about kids when I was born (both my parents were only children, but my mother was around cousins.). He treated me like a boy when I was little. I got to work on cars, use power tools. He'd talk to me more than my mother. He gave me a set of keys to his car, when I got my license. He tried to molest me when I was 16. It didn't work. I was way too wise and said if he touched me again I'd turn him in....it made me sad. I think it made him sad too....I didn't love him less, I didn't trust him. When he died, he'd left word with all the men he worked with, that I was to be told -first- (he died at work) and I was to take care of things. ( like I always did). So at the furneral all the men came to me to tell me they were sorry. They by-passed my Mother. I actually miss my Dad. He taught me some valuable things..he also taught me bad things.(dirty magazines are not for little girls to look at...giving a 16 yr old booze for her birthday (when no one in the family drinks) is weird...). I never was a child..never allowed to be one. It's hard to try and be an adult when you aren't, take care and rear brothers and sisters...and then be a parent to your parents....(now you all know why I don't have kids....) And theres no need to feel sorry for me...I made it...I'm a kind, caring, intelligent person, super responsible and reliable...(and a good speller...  ) to look at me you'd never know. A hard/difficult life doesn't have to show in your face or manner....(lucky me...I'm young looking and cute...   )
Chrys
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From: Dede
Date: 06-05-2006, 03:29 PM (13 of 21)
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Chrysanta, ]you are not alone[/U]. It wasn't my father but it doesn't make things right anyways. Also my choice not to have kids and for the same reasons. We get our strength where we can and life goes on. As opposed to you, I always knew I could count on dad, even to this day. I never told him what happened and if I can help it, he will never know. He's carried enough all his life without adding to it. Things happen for a reason and I leave it at that. |
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From: Magot
Date: 06-10-2006, 02:16 AM (14 of 21)
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I knew there was a reason we got on Kath - we had the same DAD!!!! must be where the sense of humour somes from! A bad childhood does not mean a bad adulthood that is for sure. love and kisses, Jan
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From: Butterflyrf71
Date: 06-10-2006, 06:27 AM (15 of 21)
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Seems lile a lot of the Fathers are still alike. I have lots of bad memories about my Dad. I used to sit my the window on the day he said he would come see me, and I'd wait for hours, and he'd never show. I keep my few good memories close to heart, and have not allowed him to have any effect on who I am today, I refuse to be a cheather, liar, and a master head game player. I am so thankful for my Step-Dad. Although he was an alcoholic and drug user until 1986 (now clean since then!!!) he was the best thing that happened to our little family. You Lord, give perfect peace to those who keep their purpose firm, and place their trust in you. Isaiah 26:3, AV
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User: Butterflyrf71
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From: DorothyL
Date: 06-10-2006, 07:33 AM (16 of 21)
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I met my father a couple times. The first time I was 19. He was OK -- but apparently not worth the time to get to know him. Dorothy |
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From: bridesmom
Date: 06-10-2006, 09:46 PM (17 of 21)
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My dad was 60 when I was born, so by the time I was wanting to know who he was, he had Alzheimers and then died, and I never really got to know him at all. He was a military man, lived for the Army, and was a militant father trying to raise a very rebellious daughter. I never did feel like I could do anything right to please him. It took a long time, but my son was the one who helped me get to the point of forgiveness and letting go about 13 years after he had died. Now I realize he did the best he knew how.
Laura
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From: glamma1940
Date: 06-10-2006, 11:51 PM (18 of 21)
| My Dad had a lot of problems, which were mostly caused by his drinking. He was a very quiet drunk, but it was very hurtful anyway. I always thought it was my fault, that I wasn't a good enough daughter. When I got older I knew it was just something inside of him, not me. He quit drinking about 1973, but by them I was 33 & it was really too late to have any kind of a close relationship. He never talked much about himself. One thing though, he had a great sense of humor & always said funny things & made everybody laugh. It was probably a cover-up but it was funny. He died in 1991, and I miss him because even with all the problems, he was my Daddy & I know he loved me. |
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From: Mom of Six
Date: 06-11-2006, 07:58 AM (19 of 21)
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You guys are making me miss my Dad more & more. I am so glad I had the Dad I did.
Barb
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User: Mom of Six
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From: Magot
Date: 06-11-2006, 02:01 PM (20 of 21)
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I am very grateful for the many positive things my Dad gave me - but I am especially grateful that we had time to talk before he died to put things right between us. It was hard going but I bought up the subject and I was able to tell him that I had forgiven him for things that went wrong and he was able to say sorry. He died peaceful and at peace with his God as well so I feel when I see him next we will have a proper relationship.
love and kisses, Jan
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From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 06-12-2006, 01:35 PM (21 of 21)
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My Dad taught us many things. Integrity, fair play, don't judge others, earn your way, generosity, ... No, he was not perfect.. He lost his temper a lot as a younger man, but the day the Dr. told him losing his temper would kill him, he started controlling it always, not just sometimes.. LOL But he had gone thru so many hardships just to survive and he was so grateful for the 60 years he had and the family he had and tried to instill that in us..Most of all, He loved us..
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