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From: lendube
Date: 12-31-2006, 02:31 PM (1 of 14)
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It was not a real surprise and they're not making a huge deal about it but the promise has been made, beautiful ring accepted, and there will be a wedding within the next couple of years or so. My dd is so unconventional that no way that they decide to marry will surprise me. If it's 5 years from now in a traditional setting or this next weekend by Elvis in Vegas, NOTHING would surprise me with this girl. She's always heard her own drummer. She's almost 26, very outgoing, different and an interesting and fun person. She was a nonconforming teenager who, frankly, went through some scary phases but it all turned out okay.  Her fiance is 14 years older with an 11 y/o son who will make me an instant grandma. He's a great kid and needs some stability in his life since his own mom is nuts. My dd is so good for him and I hope dh and I am as well. His dad's great. My favorite part here is that fiance came to me first and asked what I thought. (Bio-dad is not in the picture as far as dd is concerned.) I told him I thought it was a good thing and am happy to have him as part of the family. He's hard working, has a good heart and absolutely treasures dd who can be a tough one to handle sometimes...... Aside from this I am thrilled to have the holidays behind us. I vote for celebrating them once every 5 years. That would be enough for me..........  Happy New Year! Lennie |
User: lendube
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From: Patty22
Date: 12-31-2006, 02:39 PM (2 of 14)
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Congrats on the future SIL Lennie and your future g-son. I think it is really considerate that he "asked permission" before popping the question and that you and your fireman are there with open arms with your love. What a great way to start the New Year knowing happiness is in the future for those you hold dear to your heart. Patty
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User: Patty22
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From: swartzrn
Date: 12-31-2006, 02:47 PM (3 of 14)
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Wonderful news!! I think it also speaks highly of him asking you. Although it was not our first marriages, I told my now husband that I would not even consider marrying him unless he talked to my dad (ex husband certainly didn't do anything like that.) Anyway, he was terrified but he asked for both Elizabeth and me. My parents were not shocked that we were going to get married but I think shocked that he had actually asked the both of them and for the both my daughter and me. I haven't ever figured out though if he was more terrified of my dad or my mother LOL!! Congrats on the engagement! Sounds like she has a good guy! Julie
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User: swartzrn
Member since: 02-17-2006 Total posts: 436 
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From: Bama
Date: 12-31-2006, 04:50 PM (4 of 14)
Congratulations! Sounds like you're getting a very nice son-in-law. 
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User: Bama
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From: PaulineG
Date: 12-31-2006, 05:47 PM (5 of 14)
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Congrats and best wishes to all. Instant grandma huh? So what are you going to be called? My kids best grandma is my stepmother who proves it's not about blood it's about love and involvement. Interested to hear when the plans are finally set about which way they decide to celebrate/formalise. Pauline
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User: PaulineG
Member since: 09-08-2006 Total posts: 901 |
From: esrun3
Date: 01-01-2007, 12:37 AM (6 of 14)
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Congrats Lennie! You'll have to keep us posted. My dd's boyfriend asked me about 6 months ago if it was ok to marry her but he hasn't asked her yet, not sure she would say "yes" right now anyway. He still thinks he should get to do everything he wants like he did before the baby was born. Not sitting well with my dd at the moment. We'll see if he grows up soon. Hope so, he's a nice guy and when he isn't thinking of himself he is very good to my daughter. however, he's gonna need to learn he doesn't come first anymore, that baby does, if he doesn't I expect he will be gone sooner rather than later. So, we'll ahve to see. Nice your dd's bf asked for her hand! I like that custom. Lyn
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User: esrun3
Member since: 12-02-2004 Total posts: 2345 |
From: Magot
Date: 01-01-2007, 05:47 AM (7 of 14)
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awww Lennie, congrats to all - just to be perverse my dad said "NO!" but we ignored him and did anyway - I think he just didn't want us to get married while we were at college which we weren't planning to do anyway. Hope your daughter and her new family have a great life together. love and kisses, Jan
Guts-R-Us Cells a Speciality DNA to order. |
User: Magot
Member since: 12-22-2002 Total posts: 3626 
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From: lendube
Date: 01-01-2007, 01:24 PM (8 of 14)
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Thanks, everyone. Pauline, I'm not sure what future grandson will call me. He's 11 now and especially if dd doesn't get married for a while I'm guessing it'll just stay "Lennie". He did ask if he could call me grandma then but he's at a stage where he experiments with sarcasm and it's real hard to tell sometimes. Whatever he wants is fine with me. When I asked him if he liked the idea of his dad and Elizabeth getting married he said, "It's okay". He said it with a smile though. He knew about the ring ahead of time and w/out his dad knowing bought a huge fake engagement ring for Eliz. at the school Santa's Workshop. He gave it to her Xmas morning (before dad gave his) and said, "Look Dad, I just asked Elizabeth to marry me!". Little smart aleck, I take that as a very good sign though. He wouldn't have done that had he not liked the idea. Well Jan, I'm glad to see your marriage "took". That'll show your Dad! lol Oh, my ex-h actually asked my Dad if he minded if we lived together! He was sweating bullets at the time. I was all of 20 and he was 30. Talk about stress. "Yes, sir, I just want to sleep with your daughter. I don't necessarily want to marry her."  See, that one never did "take". lol lol Thanks ladies! Lennie |
User: lendube
Member since: 08-06-2006 Total posts: 1548 |
From: Magot
Date: 01-01-2007, 03:26 PM (9 of 14)
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Oh, my ex-h actually asked my Dad if he minded if we lived together! He was sweating bullets at the time. I was all of 20 and he was 30. Talk about stress. "Yes, sir, I just want to sleep with your daughter. I don't necessarily want to marry her." Good Lord - I can imagine if Tony asked that my Dad would have decked him! Holey Moley! love and kisses, Jan
Guts-R-Us Cells a Speciality DNA to order. |
User: Magot
Member since: 12-22-2002 Total posts: 3626
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From: lendube
Date: 01-01-2007, 03:54 PM (10 of 14)
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My folks were always quite laid back about stuff like that. Remember, they're Dutch. Oh those liberals! Where my two ultra conservative brothers came from is still a mystery! Lennie |
User: lendube
Member since: 08-06-2006 Total posts: 1548 |
From: mozeyrn
Date: 01-01-2007, 09:04 PM (11 of 14)
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Congratulations on the engagement!! That's great her "fiance's" son and her get along. I guess that's half the battle. Whoever my dd ends up with had better believe he needs to ask her father and me before he asks her. Whether we say "yes" is another story - lol. I hope you get to participate in the planning of whatever kind of celebration they decide to do. - Maureen.
Learning something new with every stitch!! Kenmore 16231000 |
User: mozeyrn
Member since: 11-29-2005 Total posts: 349 |
From: Chrysantha
Date: 01-01-2007, 09:04 PM (12 of 14)
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Congrats Lennie.. !!! [[[ ]]] Now don't forget we all get to give you advice on the wedding and reception...so keep us up to date so we can meddle. 
Chrys
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User: Chrysantha
Member since: 09-06-2002 Total posts: 2414 
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From: lendube
Date: 01-01-2007, 09:45 PM (13 of 14)
I might put you all to work making stuff. Can you imagine what we could all do if we pooled our talents???  Maureen's little girl can be the flower girl.......... hmmmm. It would be the wedding of the century!  Lennie
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User: lendube
Member since: 08-06-2006 Total posts: 1548 |
From: DorothyL
Date: 01-02-2007, 08:13 AM (14 of 14)
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We were joking around with my daughter and her boyfriend (lived together almost 10 years now) about him asking her dad for "her hand" when he is ready to marry her. She pointed out that if he had so little respect for her that he would ask her father for her, she wouldn't marry him anyway. She is her own person, she said, not someone to be "given" by her father. That was after she got over laughing when I said "He's not going to marry her. Why buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free." She had never heard that one before. Dorothy |
User: DorothyL
Member since: 12-09-2002 Total posts: 3883 |
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