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From: temom
Date: 03-26-2007, 10:31 PM (1 of 17)
Today my little one wore a jumper and matching shorts that I had made for her - my very first sewing project a year ago. When I picked her up from the bus stop, she told me that a teacher had asked who had made her dress, and was it my very first project.

I didn't think it looked that bad!:sick:
Theresa
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From: Chrysantha
Date: 03-26-2007, 11:12 PM (2 of 17)
tell your little girl to tell the teacher that asking personal questions like that, is none of her business. (and it's not...)
The teacher is an a** (she's probably done it to others too....you aren't the first and you aren't gonna be the last...)

[[[ ]]]

I'm sure the clothes look just fine...some people just gotta feel superior by making others feel bad, kids included...
Chrys
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From: PaulineG
Date: 03-26-2007, 11:21 PM (3 of 17)
Maybe you've misinterpreted her reason for asking that.

Whether or not that's the case don't let somebody else influence the way you feel (or your kids either) about your creations. You were obviously happy enough about them at the start of today - Chrysantha is right - some people do enjoy making others feel bad.
Pauline
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From: beachgirl
Date: 03-26-2007, 11:42 PM (4 of 17)
Did her teacher make her feel bad about her outfit ? If so I'd have a talk with her for sure. If the teacher has a problem she or he should call you, not say something to a young child. That sure doesn't say much about her as an adult period.
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From: diannab
Date: 03-27-2007, 06:35 AM (5 of 17)
(((((((((HUGS))))))))) I am so sorry! :( Kammie's teacher is the same way! Even though, a few people around town ask me to whip things up for their kids :bang: some people do treat others that way. It is just sad when they make kids feel bad. After Kammie's teacher made that comment she mysteriously got a head ache and went to the clinic.... I will never tell her but I can't say I blame her. :( GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! (((((((((((HUGS)))))))) Next year it will be better! :) Thats what I tell myself anyway :) LOL Kammie still asks for me to make her clothes, so I would say she got over it. :)
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From: violet_blues
Date: 03-27-2007, 09:23 AM (6 of 17)
:shock: How rude of that teacher! :mad: I would definitely talk to her if it made your daughter feel bad regardless if it was your first project or the your thousandth.

I don't think a comment like that is appropriate from a teacher at all. She needs to do her job and stop worrying about what a student is wearing. (unless inappropriate of course which doesn't sound like the case in your situation) As my mother always said, "Its' not a fashion show".

Geez, kids have it hard enough from their peers....

Hugs to you! :bluewink:
Tammy
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From: paroper
Date: 03-27-2007, 09:40 AM (7 of 17)
It may have been a compliment! Besides, the teacher may sew and have recognized the pattern. It is easy to be sensitive when learning to sew but some people appreciate seamstresses! Just dismiss it.

Remember, everyone's clothes were sewn by someone!
pam

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From: paroper
Date: 03-27-2007, 09:45 AM (8 of 17)
During WWII, when no one had gas or tires to get to town, one of Mom's students came to school. He had fallen at a remote farm and had split his entire jawline from his ear all the way to the center front of his face. It had required stitches, and the person who had sewn it up had done a lovely job, very small even stitches. She ADMIRED the work and asked the kid who did it, knowing that it would have been very difficult to get to a doctor during that time. The child's mother had sewn it up! She always admired the job she had done on a child who was probably not very happy about being sewn up!
pam

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From: Addicted2Sewing
Date: 03-27-2007, 10:06 AM (9 of 17)
I am sorry that you got so upset. Maybe the teacher just liked the outfit and wanted to know where she got it from. I have been teaching myself to sew and my daughter has worn a few things to school and everyone just loved it. Of course I didn't think they were all that great but hey..at least it didn't fall apart on her LoL. Keep your head up and don't take what people say seriously. If you like it, and your daughter likes it, thats all that matters. I'm sure the outfit was really cute, and was sewn with much love. If the teacher does say negative things about what your daughter wears, I would sure make a trip to the school to find out just what is going on.
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From: Pudge99
Date: 03-27-2007, 10:35 AM (10 of 17)
A couple of teachers I know start the year with a very important saying.

"I promise not believe everything your children say about you if you promise not to believe everything they say about me."

ie "My mommy drinks and drives all the time."

Of course it is possible that this was a very rude teacher (they are out there unfortunately). Chance are though it might have been more of a miss understanding.
Teacher says "That's a pretty dress did someone make it for you?" Child says "Yes my mommy made it." Teacher says "Does she make you a lot of things or is this the first one?"
Translation of the conversation after a long day at school and a bus ride home. "Mommy a teacher asked me if someone made this outfit and if it was your very first project."
If I were you I would blow it off since it seems from your post that is was just a a random teacher not your child's. If the issue comes up again with this same teacher I would talk to them to make sure there was no misunderstanding.
Gina
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From: lendube
Date: 03-27-2007, 10:45 AM (11 of 17)
It may have been a compliment! Besides, the teacher may sew and have recognized the pattern. It is easy to be sensitive when learning to sew but some people appreciate seamstresses! Just dismiss it.


Those were my first thoughts exactly. :up:

Lennie
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From: lizzybugsmommy
Date: 03-27-2007, 12:14 PM (12 of 17)
Every morning I take Lizzy to school in somthing I made She gets asked if Mommy made it she proudly says yes. I consider it a compliment. I dont see any of the other kids wearing home made with love clothes. Except my sisters two, and I make those too.
Think of it this way. Most of the patterns that are out now are the same that are used in the expensive boutiques. My child wears very expensive boutique clothing. So what if I made them. She wears them and they could have cost me a fourtune. But I am learning a skill that I will be able to use as she grows and continue to have her wearing these clothes as long as she will. I am saving money, learning a new skill, and showing my child all the love in the world at the same time.
I have people begging me to make some for there kids but I can not. I can not put the love into it that I do for Lizzy's and my nieces.
Lots of love to you and your baby girl.
Catherine

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From: temom
Date: 03-27-2007, 12:36 PM (13 of 17)
Wow, you all have made me feel so much better. Thank you so very much!!
I was at school today, and didn't say a thing to the teacher involved. Pudge - you are correct that this wasn't my child's teacher. My child does have a little interaction with her, but not much. I'll have to ask my little one today if she wants to wear the dress again, and feel around for how she felt when she had the dress conversation.

Thanks for all the encouragement and hugs, 'cause I surely needed them!
Theresa
User: temom
Member since: 01-19-2007
Total posts: 410
From: Too busy
Date: 03-27-2007, 01:39 PM (14 of 17)
Temom- You were given great advice that the teacher probably(hopefully) meant no harm. I am impressed that you kept your cool today at school. When I create unique one of a kind things any hint of criticism is taken soooo personally. When/if someone does make a remark I usually try to justify in my mind that they are envious of my creativity. :up:
Balance it out with the hundreds of compliments you get on your creations!!!:re:
I am anxious to hear if your daughter is willing/wants to wear the outfit again.
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From: paroper
Date: 03-27-2007, 02:01 PM (15 of 17)
If you only knew how rare a sewing parent or grand parent is anymore, it was probably more a positive comment than a negative. Of 125 students in a high school band, there were 5 who could sew and this was a country school. two were moderate to advanced, two were moderate seamstresses, one was a beginning seamstress. That was it! You just don't find that many who can sew (or play the piano either) anymore.
pam

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From: pinkroses
Date: 03-29-2007, 07:38 PM (16 of 17)
I agree with the lady above me.
It is rare to have a partent to sew for their children.
I would ask the teacher what she meant by that.
Maybe , she really liked the outfit?
Some people are just plain rude.PINKROSES
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From: dcloud
Date: 03-29-2007, 09:16 PM (17 of 17)
Jumping to conclusions can be a bad thing. Believe me, I know. I used to do it all the time. But as others have pointed out that woman may have just been asking because perhaps she liked the outfit. As my mom always tells me - Ask, don't assume.
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