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From: tiny
Date: 04-27-2007, 09:17 PM (1 of 10)
Does anyone have any suggestions for how to NOT have a party for my birthday? Generally our extended family gathers for all birthdays, but I'm tired of either traveling to the "main house" (the house my parents share with my grandfather) or hosting in my tiny house. A relative has already called to say that they were looking forward to the party, if I could just fill them in on the details...thankfully, they just got the answering machine...
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From: lendube
Date: 04-27-2007, 09:54 PM (2 of 10)
Can you make plans and then make it a tradition to go away for your b'day???

I'm so tempted to do that each year for the holidays but don't want to hurt feelings. You may be in the same boat.

It is your b'day though so you should do what YOU want.

Another option would be to get together at a restaurant if the group isn't too big.

P.S. Happy Early Birthday!

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From: pretnichols
Date: 04-27-2007, 10:34 PM (3 of 10)
Every year since my niece was born in 1992, we have had "birthday" weekend. My brother, 2 of his kids and my Dad all have August birthdays. Since we typically went on a vacation to our summer cottage together, especially when the kids were small, it just evolved. Now we include my July birthday, and my other niece's Sept. birthday. Since it is usually a week before the kids go back to school, it usually works well to have one last big "bang" for the summer.

This may not work for you, but you could try combining it with another event. Or make plans to be out of town, but starting your own tradition, since it sounds like you don't a party. Treat yourself to a spa weekend, or some other relaxing thing instead. Explain to your relatives that this is what you want to do from now on and that you will see them at other gatherings.

Good luck! And happy early birthday!

So little time, sew much to do...........
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From: Patty22
Date: 04-28-2007, 08:19 AM (4 of 10)
Tell the relative you are open to any kind of party they want to throw for your birthday and ask what time you should arrive at their house. Do tell them your favorite kind of cake but tell them they don't have to light candles.

Talk fast and don't give them a chance to question their generosity.
User: Patty22
Member since: 03-29-2006
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From: tiny
Date: 04-28-2007, 11:00 AM (5 of 10)
It sounds like it's time to treat myself to a weekend getaway! There's too many of us to pack into a restaurant- 12+. I wonder what Victoria, B.C. looks like in early July...peace, quiet, no dishes to be done...
User: tiny
Member since: 04-22-2001
Total posts: 8
From: lendube
Date: 04-28-2007, 12:14 PM (6 of 10)
Atta Girl! You enjoy yourself! :up:

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From: bridesmom
Date: 04-28-2007, 03:51 PM (7 of 10)
Tiny, Victoria is beautiful any time of the year, in fact anywhere on the island is beautiful, especially Tofino or Ucluelet. But if you are going to do this, you'd better book way ahead, cause it gets very busy over there in the summer. Another really nice area (if you are thinking of coming up) is the Sunshine Coast, very laid back, quaint, a lovely ferry trip (45 min) from West Van to Gibsons which is a cute little town. In fact I think that sounds like an excellent way to celebrate a birthday!!!

Though I really like Patty's suggestion!! But you sure got to talk fast and be assertive on that one!
Tickled pink with my Innovis 4000D
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From: tiny
Date: 04-28-2007, 07:36 PM (8 of 10)
Laura- Thanks for the info! I like Patty's suggestion too- but now where'd I put my assertiveness? Must be in my other purse...
User: tiny
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Total posts: 8
From: Sancin
Date: 04-29-2007, 01:24 AM (9 of 10)
Tiny, I second Laura's opinion of busy Victoria in July. I lived there for several years and never went down town in the summer. It is lovely and lots to see, especially the Museum, but the streets tends to be shoulder to shoulder people and parking is hard to find. Best time there is probably spring and fall. The Sunshine coast is great and the northern part of the Island or west side where Tofino and Uculet are along with Long Beach is wonderful. Always reminds me a bit of the Oregan coast. Port Alberni is not such a long drive and has great forest. If you want to go up that way Parksville is not a bad place to stay and work out of, but also may be busy. Duncan is not a bad place to stay and not as busy regarding accomodations. Enjoy - if it were me I'd avoid the big family thing. Love em but gets tiresome.
*~*~*~* Nancy*~*~*~* " I try to take one day at a time - but sometimes several days attack me at once."
User: Sancin
Member since: 02-13-2005
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From: material_pakrat
Date: 04-29-2007, 01:01 PM (10 of 10)
Hang out the "Going away Banner!" Go somewhere, or just treat yourself to a weekend spa treatment. It can be a real pain with traditions, but sometimes they just need to be put on hold for a year........ or two....or three!

Just remember, it is YOUR birthay, so make it YOUR special day.

And by the way....... Happy Birthday. Hope you have a fantasic day.
Cheers, Soph.

I'm happiest when I am sewing!
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