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From: sew_arub_sew
Date: 04-29-2007, 03:26 PM (1 of 3)
It has been way to long since I have been here. I have missed everyone so much. As some of you may know me as threads_40.., serenity or something like that...I am one and the same.

SO much has happened over the course of the last year. As many of you know I had remarried "HIM" and we I thought were happy. We had our ups and downs, but over all things were good. They were good until I found out "HIM" had been having 2 different long term affairs, 3 flings and 2 one nighters. 7 different women total. I was devastated, numb and completely at a lost for anything.

I had a lot of trouble trying to get out of bed, and when I did, my mother passed away. That meant my parents and grandparents were all gone and I would be alone. With my children all being grown and on there own, I have to take care of 2 grand-daughters. Oh now mind you "HIM" is still living here. After all, I had left my job to take care of my mom and then my 2 granddaughters. So "HIM's" income was the only one I had.

Now that mom is gone the girls leave for florida right after school lets out this year. And as for me..... I want to leave too, I just don't have a clue, not to mention any money, a job or a place to go too. So I am taking one day at time. I do want to thank all of you "old timers" who remember me and my pitiful story... You mean a lot to me. You really do. I still have so much going through my head and sewing is the only thing I want to start doing again. I had closed my buiness and finished up the orders I had and will have to start all over to get them going again.

Things did get even worse after I first talked about this matter. "HIM" as you have probally noticed I call "HIM" that now....Ended up with a DUI... so he lost his driving license for 18 months.... so I drive him 135 miles a day...twice a day to work... and then go pick him up. If I were to stay... he is finishing his maters and starts his last year in September adn will finish in April next year... that means 2 times a week even in the dead of Vermont winter I would have to drive him back and forth to school and wait in the car with the girls for 3 hours. I have no life.... I am sad all the time and I am trying to hang in there so the girls will have a place until they leave here and go back to my daughter and son in law. (they came after my mom died because my daughter had a very hard pregnancy and 4 other children at home, so they were coming to be with me for a year anyway before I found all this out) But it gets really hard sometime.

Please all of you out there ...keep me in your prayers... and I will do my best to come in moe to get my mind of of this mess. I have been thinking of moving to either Detroit or Connetticut.... What do you guys think...becsides me being the biggest dope in the world???
"Your struggle is not greater than your reward"
User: sew_arub_sew
Member since: 12-19-2005
Total posts: 7
From: MaryW
Date: 05-03-2007, 12:18 PM (2 of 3)
You are not a dope! Now, forget about yesterday and concentrate on you and your future. It should be first and foremost.
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User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005
Total posts: 2542
From: plrlegal
Date: 05-03-2007, 05:04 PM (3 of 3)
Hey sew arub you can always come to Oklahoma, it's summer time out her already. Just trying to cheer you up. I've been in the boat you're in but believe me, there is light at the end of the tunnel whenever you make the decision to walk to the end of your tunnel. But the decision is all up to you and by the way, I agree with Mary -- you're not a dope!!! However, you do have to stop putting "HIM" before you -- his problems are his problems, not yours.

User: plrlegal
Member since: 05-19-2001
Total posts: 318
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