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From: Sherri
Date: 06-10-2007, 09:18 PM (1 of 9)
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A friend of mine from Highschool phoned me last night to tell me that another friend comitted Suicide. i am just devastated by this and have been crying all day. I just wish I didn't live a million miles away maybe I could have helped. Sad tonight, Sher My website
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User: Sherri
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From: lendube
Date: 06-10-2007, 10:57 PM (2 of 9)
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Sherri, Absolutely don't feel any guilt over this. If someone's desperate enough to commit suicide they'll do it no matter what. Try to contact the family. I'm sure they'd appreciate your support and kind thoughts. Take care, Lennie |
User: lendube
Member since: 08-06-2006 Total posts: 1548 |
From: Bama
Date: 06-10-2007, 11:33 PM (3 of 9)
| Sending (((hugs))) your way. Lennie is right. Don't put any guilt on yourself. I've known a couple of people who committed suicide. I don't think anyone could have stopped them. |
User: Bama
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From: PaulineG
Date: 06-11-2007, 09:02 AM (4 of 9)
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You shouldn't feel guilty. Think about what you'd say to a good friend in the same position as you. Say it to yourself now. Firmly. And mean it. Believe yourself. Wallow for a while by all means. Grief is really important to express. Don't overdo it though - try and find something to do or spend time with somebody that will make you feel good. This would not make you an uncaring person. You have just experienced/witnessed the ultimate reason we all need to look after ourselves emotionally. I hope you feel stronger soon. Go and give your kids a hug (it always makes me feel better). Pauline
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User: PaulineG
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From: MaryW
Date: 06-11-2007, 09:25 AM (5 of 9)
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Sherri, when I was a kid, there was 5-6 of us that used to hang out all the time. A couple of guys and the rest girls. Just goofing around, no romance or anything. Anyway, life goes on and I moved away. Everyone else went their separate ways as well. A couple of years later I heard one of the guys had committed suicide. I was shocked. He was a good guy but I do know his home life was not the best. I felt so bad for him.
MaryW
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User: MaryW
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From: bridesmom
Date: 06-11-2007, 10:26 AM (6 of 9)
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I think that if someone is determined to take their own life, that it's near impossible to stop them. And alot of the signs that you'd guess would be there aren't. I don't understand how people can do this, but it happens and it's a very sad and horrible thing. It does seem to leave people wondering, why didn't I see it coming, what could I have done to stop it. My sympathies go out to you. And a huge hug!!
Laura
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User: bridesmom
Member since: 01-21-2004 Total posts: 2026 |
From: MaryW
Date: 06-11-2007, 10:35 AM (7 of 9)
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It is one of those situations where absolutely everyone feels sad and guilty.
MaryW
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User: MaryW
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From: Patty22
Date: 06-11-2007, 06:23 PM (8 of 9)
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Sherri, My one son went to a local community college and ran cross-country. They had a really nice group of guys running and the coach was very nice. They had done well all year and had qualified for Nationals and went to Maryland for the race. Two days upon returning home, my son had gotten a call from the head of the athletic department that he should go to his office immediately. My husband and I started questioning him as to the extent of "did you kids throw a party in the hotel room?" "did you do something you need to talk about?" etc. My son returned home from the meeting and said he wouldn't talk about what happened with his little sister in the room. We sent her to her room and he went onto explain that his coach had committed suicide after returning home. They were questioning the kids as to whether they had known anything or whether they could have shed light on the situation. (I think it ultimately made this group of kids feel responsible for not knowing what the coach was going to do.) My son was devasted as well as the other guys on the team. It was suggested later that he had financial problems. Suicide is painful for those left to remember the individual. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend and I hope you find peace through good memories of your friendship. Sending cyberhugs. Patty
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User: Patty22
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From: Sherri
Date: 06-12-2007, 11:11 PM (9 of 9)
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Sherri, when I was a kid, there was 5-6 of us that used to hang out all the time. A couple of guys and the rest girls. Just goofing around, no romance or anything. Anyway, life goes on and I moved away. Everyone else went their separate ways as well. A couple of years later I heard one of the guys had committed suicide. I was shocked. He was a good guy but I do know his home life was not the best. I felt so bad for him. Mary exact same situation. There was about 10 of us that were very good friends. This was one of my closer friends even within this group. We had mostly gone our own ways. You know went to college, got married had kids, moved apart. Mostly I only talked to here if we happened to be at our parents at the same time. Didn't really happen often. One of the other friends phoned the family and they blamed it on us. Said we deserted her when she needed us most. They didn't contact us in any way. They didn't put an obit in the paper and the funeral was private so we couldn't attend. Her exhuband actually tracked down a few of the friends and they contacted the rest. It is mourning, shock and frustration talking. But thanks for the support and thoughts. I do appreciate it. Sher My website
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User: Sherri
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