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From: MaryW
Date: 07-30-2007, 08:56 AM (1 of 26)
Summer looked after her Mom while working full time. Last evening, around 11:30 her Mom passed on. This was not a surprise to Summer or her family as her Mom had been ill for some time. Summer is sad but ok. She will not be on the site for a while.

Summer, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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From: pretnichols
Date: 07-30-2007, 09:19 AM (2 of 26)
Hugs to SummerEchos and her family during this time. My thoughts are with them.

So little time, sew much to do...........
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From: toadusew
Date: 07-30-2007, 09:22 AM (3 of 26)
Summer, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time in your life.
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From: Magot
Date: 07-30-2007, 10:02 AM (4 of 26)
Hugs and thoughts to you too, Summer. Be gentle with yourself and take time to grieve.
love and kisses, Jan
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From: Bama
Date: 07-30-2007, 10:12 AM (5 of 26)
Sending hugs to you Summer. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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From: MartySews2
Date: 07-30-2007, 11:03 AM (6 of 26)
Summer, am so sorry to hear of your Mother's death. Please allow yourself time to grieve and heal. Know that many thoughts and prayers are going out to you and your family this day.
Marty :love:
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From: lendube
Date: 07-30-2007, 12:04 PM (7 of 26)
What a gracious and giving thing you did to take care of your Mom. My condolences and we look forward to seeing you soon.

Lennie :love:
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From: Kaitlinnegan
Date: 07-30-2007, 01:03 PM (8 of 26)
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From: Jeke
Date: 07-30-2007, 03:57 PM (9 of 26)

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. You are certainly an inspiration and example of loving and giving.

Take care of yourself, too.
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From: esrun3
Date: 07-30-2007, 04:41 PM (10 of 26)
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Summer as you get through this trying time. Please take care of yourself!
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From: temom
Date: 07-30-2007, 08:24 PM (11 of 26)
Summer, my thoughts go out to you and your family. Jan is wise - you need to be gentle with yourself and take time to grieve. This will be a stressful week for you. Be sure to take some time next week to do something nice for yourself.
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From: Debby215
Date: 07-30-2007, 08:36 PM (12 of 26)
Summer, sending hugs and prayers to you and your family. Take care of yourself.
So much fabric....... So little time!!
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From: vickki
Date: 07-30-2007, 08:47 PM (13 of 26)
Many prayers go out to you and your family at this time..Take care Vickki
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From: SummersEchos
Date: 07-31-2007, 12:11 AM (14 of 26)
Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers and wishes.

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From: plrlegal
Date: 07-31-2007, 12:19 AM (15 of 26)
Summer condolences to you and your family in the loss of your mother.

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From: Bruna
Date: 08-01-2007, 06:38 PM (16 of 26)
Summer, please accept my condolences also. It's always hard when someone you love dies even when it's expected and sometimes even wished for to end the loved ones suffering, we want them with us always. Look after yourself.
Regards, Bruna
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From: SummersEchos
Date: 08-01-2007, 08:00 PM (17 of 26)
Thank you all for you wishes and prayers. My mom suffered from Alzheimer's and had for many years. My dad was her caretaker until 5 years ago when he himself ended up being sick. That is when I and my younger sister started taking care of them both. Dad went to dialysis 3 times a week, and mom wasn't capable of being left alone. Dad died a few years later and mom as suspected fell deeper into her own world. These last 6 months we saw here go deeper and deeper. Hospice was with us for almost a year which was truly wonderful. When she suddendly made a turn for the worse, hospice walked us through the whole process of dying. I have to admit the last week of her life was gut wrenching, but she was not suffering and was at peace. The night she passed on all 3 of us sister were together talking about old times, laughing, crying, you name it. I believe she heard us and knew we would be okay and she could go to the man she loved for over 60 years. She took her last breath very peaceful and that was that. I will say this may not be for everyone, and no one could fault those people who can not do it. If you are ever in this situation, call for support from whoever/wherever you can.
Once again thank you for everything, and know that I am okay, just a little busy right now.

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From: HeyJudee
Date: 08-01-2007, 08:47 PM (18 of 26)
Summer, I'm sorry for your loss. Wishing for better times ahead for you and your family.
TTFN from
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From: mozeyrn
Date: 08-01-2007, 08:50 PM (19 of 26)
It takes a certain type of person to take care of someone with a disease like Alzheimers. The need to be patient & understanding is incredible, made harder by the fact of not knowing what the loved one is going thru nor the ability to express themselves.
I'm sorry for the loss of your Mom. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Please take care of yourself & take the time to mourn.
[[[[ hugs ]]]]]
- Maureen.
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From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 08-01-2007, 09:13 PM (20 of 26)
Hugs to you, my friend.. I lost my Mom 5 years ago yesterday to the same awful disease.. I know exactly what all you went thru, and I can sympathize with all your feelings now.. Just remember the good times and all the great things about your Mom.. Allow yourself plenty of time to adjust and to just sit back and think about all the good things you remember.. This empty feeling will get better with time.. Love to all your family..
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From: bridesmom
Date: 08-01-2007, 10:30 PM (21 of 26)
Summer, my thoughts are with you too. My dad had Alzheimers and finally died from pneumonia, and I lost my mom, who was my best friend 10 years ago now. In time it gets easier. Hugs to you.
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From: MotherInLaw
Date: 08-03-2007, 01:16 AM (22 of 26)
Summer nothing any of us can say will heal your sorrow. Knowing that she is at peace and in a better place with your Dad will help you get through your sense of loss. It takes a while to get over looking for her when you come home or seeing about her, I thought that would never pass but in time it did. I truly miss my Mother she was my best friend as well as my Mother. I was her care taker until her death as you and have lots of good memories of her. Keep her in your thoughts and knowing that she is in a better place helps keep it from hurting so much. Lots of love and prayers to you and your family. (((((((Hugs))))))) Susie
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From: Sancin
Date: 08-03-2007, 05:48 PM (23 of 26)
Summer - My thoughts are with you. I lost my mother last year under similar circumstances and actually a similar way of dying. While death may be expected and at times even a relief for both the individual and the family it leaves an awful hole in your life. Keep the happy and thankful times in your mind.

Isn't hospice wonderful? A friend lost her young partner last year at home and hospice made the event a spiritual experience. I pray the same for everyone in a terminal situation.

Take time to adjust Summer and come back to us when you can.
*~*~*~* Nancy*~*~*~* " I try to take one day at a time - but sometimes several days attack me at once."
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From: lendube
Date: 08-03-2007, 11:20 PM (24 of 26)

My Dad died the same way. It was years and years of difficult times and my Mom saw him through all of it. The diagnosis was Alz. but when the autopsy came through it was actually classified as arterial sclerosis. It presented the same way though.

What a tough thing it is for the ones taking care. I think the patients themselves don't have nearly the difficulties since they don't really have any idea what's going on.

Also, I've NEVER heard one bad thing about Hospice. Always good, good things. What a wonderful organization that is.

Take care, Lennie
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From: mommydionne
Date: 08-07-2007, 07:34 PM (25 of 26)
Special thoughts and prayers to you.
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From: ninifav
Date: 08-08-2007, 07:52 PM (26 of 26)
Prayers and hugs, Summer..What a blessing that you were all together to share her passing...And hospice I know was wonderful...When Dad died last year, it was difficult; but in a way, I thought (for me and my faith) that it was a way to prepare for my eventual death and also a new appreciation for my life now...I felt like I grew spiritually...You are really tired right now...There is so much to do when some one dies...give yourself a break and come back to us when you are ready...Paula
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