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From: BevChef
Date: 05-27-2002, 10:44 PM (1 of 9)
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I feel like I am loosing my mind ...if you knew me you would agree!only half to loose. I have stepkids and they have been living with me and my husband for 10 years. They are now 14 and 11...now their mother is suing us for custody all over again and I am in such distress...and besides that I am premenopausal, dealing with horrid teenagers and the like. We always were able to work things out, but money is an issue and the kids mom is turning them away from my husband and me. Just needed to vent...and pray I guess. thanks beverlie
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User: BevChef
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From: MaryW
Date: 05-28-2002, 05:23 AM (2 of 9)
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Bev, I have step grandkids, I can relate somewhat. The blended family is really a challenge, isn't it. After 10 yrs. the kids will think of you as their primary caretaker and your home as theirs. They were 4 and 1 when they came to you. When their mother has them after 10 yrs. she will go thru more he__ than you are going thru now. Teenagers are a real trip, I raised 3 of them. The mother should be more careful what she wishes for. Will they be leaving your area and moving far away? MaryW
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User: MaryW
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From: Cindy9013
Date: 05-28-2002, 08:18 AM (3 of 9)
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Bev, I'm so sorry to hear of your step children troubles. It is never easy. My step daughter came to live with her dad & I when she was 9 yrs. old. She is 30 now and trying to drive her dad & I crazy. We raised her to be a responsible person, ya know, go to work, do good at her job, and pay her bills. Well, she got a new live-in 2 yrs. ago that is 21 yrs. older than her and hasn't paid her bills right since. We bailed her our 3 times to keep the morgage company from reposesing her double wide. They came last Thursday to pick it up. Her double wide is on our property so they are suppose to give us 30 days written notice, they didn't. I guess I bailed her out again because I called the sheriff's office to make the movers get off the property. I told her no more money. She was so un-concerned that she didn't call them & left going on vacation for a week. Can anybody figure that out? I think I'm fixing to have to dole out some tough love. http://www.sew-whats-new.com/forums/frown.gif ------------------ Cindy Cindy
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User: Cindy9013
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From: BevChef
Date: 05-28-2002, 10:49 PM (4 of 9)
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Originally posted by Cindy9013: Bev, I'm so sorry to hear of your step children troubles. It is never easy. My step daughter came to live with her dad & I when she was 9 yrs. old. She is 30 now and trying to drive her dad & I crazy. We raised her to be a responsible person, ya know, go to work, do good at her job, and pay her bills. Well, she got a new live-in 2 yrs. ago that is 21 yrs. older than her and hasn't paid her bills right since. We bailed her our 3 times to keep the morgage company from reposesing her double wide. They came last Thursday to pick it up. Her double wide is on our property so they are suppose to give us 30 days written notice, they didn't. I guess I bailed her out again because I called the sheriff's office to make the movers get off the property. I told her no more money. She was so un-concerned that she didn't call them & left going on vacation for a week. Can anybody figure that out? I think I'm fixing to have to dole out some tough love. http://www.sew-whats-new.com/forums/frown.gif Hey Cindy! Yeah, kindof sucks! Two parent households are awful. I was raised to do the same, you know, take care of yourself, try to be morally responsible and such. Right now the kids mom is taking us back to court so we cannot be "parents"...whatever we do or say can be used against us. I feel like I am in a prison. We live in a real liberal town (my husband and I are fairly conservative)so usually "anything" goes with the kids. It is amazing what other parents will do to try and be their children's best friend. I am looking forward right now to them being on their own...but unfortunately the town I live in is really expensive to be on your own. California has become unbelieveably expensive. Just needed to vent some. Nice to find others I can chat with. ;0) beverlie
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User: BevChef
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From: BevChef
Date: 05-28-2002, 10:51 PM (5 of 9)
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Originally posted by MaryW: Bev, I have step grandkids, I can relate somewhat. The blended family is really a challenge, isn't it. After 10 yrs. the kids will think of you as their primary caretaker and your home as theirs. They were 4 and 1 when they came to you. When their mother has them after 10 yrs. she will go thru more he__ than you are going thru now. Teenagers are a real trip, I raised 3 of them. The mother should be more careful what she wishes for. Will they be leaving your area and moving far away? Aint that the truth! You would think after being the sole "parent" after 10 years there would be some kind of bond there, but unfortunately I think the mom is working these kids real good. We live about 15 minutes away from her... Anyway, thanks beverlie
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User: BevChef
Member since: 05-25-2002 Total posts: 6 |
From: MaryW
Date: 05-29-2002, 04:52 AM (6 of 9)
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Sorry if that reply was of no help. You can only do so much. I don't realize why she wants them after 10 long years.
MaryW
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User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005 Total posts: 2542
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From: BevChef
Date: 05-29-2002, 03:23 PM (7 of 9)
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Mary, very sweet of you to reply....I honestly don't think anything will help at th moment, except for alot of laughs! I really enjoyed the menopause signs of! Originally posted by MaryW: Sorry if that reply was of no help. You can only do so much. I don't realize why she wants them after 10 long years. beverlie
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User: BevChef
Member since: 05-25-2002 Total posts: 6 |
From: Emmy
Date: 07-19-2002, 12:06 AM (8 of 9)
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Sorry to hear of your troubles. Society is very confused and family ties are hard to keep strong. Hang in there. You've been their parents for a decade, she can't just wipe that out and I don't think a judge would agree with it. [This message has been edited by Emmy (edited July 19, 2002).] |
User: Emmy
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From: MaryW
Date: 10-13-2002, 07:48 AM (9 of 9)
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I got to visit a bit with my step grandkids yesterday. We haven't seen them since May. My gosh, they have both grown so much. Adam has blonde (dyed) hair and his sister Emily has a couple of dyed streaks in hers. It was sooooooo nice to see them and visit for a bit. MaryW
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User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005 Total posts: 2542
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