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From: MissVickie
Date: 03-29-2003, 06:06 PM (1 of 8)
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Hello, I haven't posted here in quite some time. I've been lurking for a couple of weeks. I had to re-register since the new changes on the site. Hey Mary, it looks great! I missed everyone and hope to get to know some of the new faces here. Vickie |
User: MissVickie
Member since: 03-29-2003 Total posts: 3 |
From: MaryW
Date: 03-30-2003, 06:46 AM (2 of 8)
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Hey Miss Vickie, hi. Glad to see you came back to join us. How are things going.
MaryW
owner/editor of Sew Whats New |
User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005 Total posts: 2542 
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From: MissVickie
Date: 03-30-2003, 07:35 AM (3 of 8)
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Hey Mary, I really missed you guys. A lot has happened in my life since November. Part of my business plan was to leave my job in January to pursue my business and be home with my son. Well, I took a bit of a detour. My husband's father had a stroke last August and his medicare was about to run out at the nursing home where he was rehabilitating. My husband and I offered to bring him to our home and I would postpone some of my business plans. I still wanted to try to do a little on the side to keep my hand in it. Well, we thought we were just helping out a nice old guy (he's 84) who needed his family right now. The first month we noticed some strange behavior. You know you expect some forgetfullness at 84 but this was unusual. Some gray hairs and some wrinkles later, I was sure it was Alzheimer's. Poor guy. Poor us too. We finally succumbed to the fact that he requires more care than my husband and I can muster. My husband has been travelling a week at a time which leaves me with my father-in-law and my 3 year old. That's the other big problem. They are really at each other and I'm afraid my son is really going to get hurt. There were a couple of "incidents" that are burned in my memory. So, My husband and his brother got their heads together yesterday and we hope to have him placed somewhere in the next couple weeks. I know he's going to feel angry and betrayed but our family unit is starting to fall apart. I know that it's the right thing to do at this point but I do feel awful about it. I feel so guilty for feeling releived. I feel especially guilty for being happy about getting my studio back. That's been his room through all of this. I feel like a rotten person for feeling the things I do. I know that I'm not, but it sure feels that way right now. I just keep trying to tell myself that at least we were willing to try this, which is more than I can say for my husband's 4 siblings. Mary, I hope you don't mind me posting this on this forum. It actually is business related, though. I've got some ideas for my own line of handbags and wallets. I'm thinking of chaging my business focus to just bridal and formal wear until I can get the bag designs polished up. I guess that's the nice thing about running your own business. If you have to take some time out for family, you don't have to worry about getting fired. =) At least now, I should have some more time to devote to my business and I look forward to chatting with you all again. Vickie |
User: MissVickie
Member since: 03-29-2003 Total posts: 3 |
From: MaryW
Date: 03-30-2003, 07:43 AM (4 of 8)
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Miss Vickie, don't apologize. Years ago, I was in your spot. We couldn't handle it and had to give in and place my MIL in a hospital. Guilt feelings for everyone. No one wins in a situation like this. Hey, you and your husband put your best foot forward, tried your darndest and did what you thought was best. Guilt is part of it, your guilt ridden if you do, and guilt ridden if you don't. Get your FIL the help and environment he needs and get back to your lives. You did nothing wrong. It's not easy to try and look after an elderly man. You and your husband should be proud of your efforts, (((hugs))) to you. MaryW
owner/editor of Sew Whats New |
User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005 Total posts: 2542
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From: Linda in Colorado
Date: 03-30-2003, 11:54 AM (5 of 8)
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Now, Miss Vicky, please don't feel guilty for doing what you and your husband thought would be the best solution. Sometimes we all have to make unpopular decisions for the best of all concerned. Now, about those handbags. Sounds like a plan to me! Please keep us posted on how you are doing with them. I love handbags -- purses of all kinds -- and have a bunch, most of which I don't even carry, just store and pull out to look at from time to time. So anyone offering new ideas is always welcome! GRIN |
User: Linda in Colorado
Member since: 03-27-2000 Total posts: 102 |
From: MaryW
Date: 03-30-2003, 12:03 PM (6 of 8)
Yes, about those handbags.  I would love to see some of your creations. MaryW
owner/editor of Sew Whats New |
User: MaryW
Member since: 06-23-2005 Total posts: 2542
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From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 03-31-2003, 07:34 PM (7 of 8)
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Welcome back, Miss Vickie, we missed you.. I understand your feelings.. I lost my Mom to Alzheimers this past July. She had it for 5 years and the last 23 months were spent in an assisted living facility, because we could not give her the level of care she needed and we wanted her to get all the care she deserved. Its hard and you cannot help but have doubts, but the pros can do it so much better.. You are responsible for your 3 year old.. He has to come first. Your FIL will be better off where he can receive the skilled care he needs.. Now , about the purses,... I can't tell you how many I have.. But I'm always on the lookout for more..
Sew With Love
Libby |
User: LeapFrog Libby
Member since: 05-01-2002 Total posts: 2022 
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From: aly
Date: 04-02-2003, 12:24 PM (8 of 8)
| Hi Miss Vickie. I was wondering how you were doing with your business and was glad to see that you have posted again. I have little time to do more than lurk on these boards lately, but I enjoyed seeing the discussion about your business, esp. since that is something I would love to do one day. I think it's amazing that you put aside your own hopes and plans to care for your f-i-l. It sounds like you have given your best effort and I don't know many that would do the same. I agree, taking care of someone is very difficult. Please don't feel guilty, you're only doing what's best for all concerned! |
User: aly
Member since: 08-16-2002 Total posts: 35 
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