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From: Aimee S
Date: 04-01-2003, 10:27 AM (1 of 44)
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Speaking of taking up arms against ruthless dictatiors. Is it just me or are there times when your hubby or others have been so clueless and have hurt your feelings during the day, that it keeps you up at night and there they lay sleeping peacfully and you just want to beat the crap out of them. The more you disaprove, the more fun I am having!
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From: Lillian
Date: 04-01-2003, 11:48 AM (2 of 44)
Yes, when I am facing a sinkful of dishes after spending two hours fixing a special meal and get a NOT BAD  
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From: kim bresee
Date: 04-01-2003, 12:18 PM (3 of 44)
Hi,have you ever had a dream about them that seamed so real that you wake up,turn to look at them sleeping,then just want to kick them out of bed?!!!!! Kim
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From: MaryW
Date: 04-01-2003, 01:43 PM (4 of 44)
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Yes, sometimes a remark can really get to you. They throw it out and have no idea the damage they do. I have often wanted to rip his head off his shoulders and --- down his neck. MaryW
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From: plrlegal
Date: 04-01-2003, 03:28 PM (5 of 44)
The favorite from my DH is when I asked him to do something around the house and he gives me a disgusted look and informs me that that particular requested chore is not on his schedule for the day or weekend, etc.  I have in turn informed him that washing dirty socks and underwear or cleaning up his mess in the bathroom is not necessarily on my agenda every Saturday either, thank you very much. Also, do any of you encounter an attitude that you have no idea what it's all about and they aren't about to tell you but expect you to guess why that aren't talking to you or what you may have don that has upset them?  Patsy Patsy
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From: Amyred
Date: 04-01-2003, 03:58 PM (6 of 44)
My gripe is when my "gent" treats my stuff like it's inferior to his. Little things that irritate me to no end! He's quick to suggest disposing of my stuff (not that its allowed) but he wouldn't think of getting rid of anything of his. My stuff is still in storage--but not for long! 
Amy the Redhead
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From: Bookworm
Date: 04-01-2003, 09:08 PM (7 of 44)
Oh, there have been a few times, like once after I had lost a few (25) pounds and was saying how I wanted some new clothes, and he said " Well, its not like you've lost that much weight, there really isn't a big difference."  That happened a couple of years ago, and when I thought about it just now I got mad all over again. He has learned to watch what he says a little better now, but it took a few nights of sleeping on the couch!
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From: Amyred
Date: 04-01-2003, 09:36 PM (8 of 44)
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Let me guess, he can't even spell "tact?" This evening dinner wasn't exactly a hit. I also burned my hand accidentally. I'm almost ready to go on strike again. Last time he ticked me off seriously I refused to cook. He went through the drive-through that night! I can live with out a man but not without a sewing machine! Amy the Redhead
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 04-01-2003, 11:02 PM (9 of 44)
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Go Girls, You are on a roll. ROFL I use to let mine get to me that way but guess what? I don't care anymore and he can't do it to me. (Make me Mad) When he does find my button to push I don't let him have the advantage by letting him know. He puss's up and goes on about his way. 34 years of marriage I've learned something well. ROFL I like to save my energy for something more creative like sewing. Put him in his place but don't let him turn it on me. I did it for so long then the light bulb went off and I figured out it's his way of getting to me. When I was younger I had a pretty little Ford Mustang and he wanted to tear it up everytime he got mad at me, he had a temper. Well he had a 1930 Street Rod in the garage that was fair game. Once I decided to tell him, "If you touch my car you will regret it, see that little car out in that garage? I'll beat dents in it till you won't reconize it." He never messed with me or my car again. ROFL He grew up quick. LOL Most men are little boys trying to be big shots, you just have to call their bluff. Try it ladies. It feels good. LOL susie 
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From: dave
Date: 04-02-2003, 06:13 AM (10 of 44)
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I just hate it when I come home, or go to leave for work, and she is so busy on the phone or computer to even say hi. Is there anything in life so important so take the place of common courtesy to loved ones?
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 04-02-2003, 07:49 AM (11 of 44)
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Sorry Dave I should have said Ladies and Gent. I forgot their were a few guys on this site. Susie
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From: Amyred
Date: 04-02-2003, 09:11 AM (12 of 44)
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Actually, Dave, you're right, he's done it to me, too. Furthermore he walks out and doesn't tell me he's leaving. "Well, you knew I was going to the post office!" WhatEVER. I'm in a crabby mood today to begin with  . . .Susie, you live near my Grandma in Arabi. (My parents are in Gretna.) Wish I could come home for a visit.  Oh, well. . .maybe tomorrow will be better. Actually, he's going to be gone Friday and Saturday. So from Friday night to whenever he returns on Saturday, I'm a free woman. 
Amy the Redhead
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From: Magot
Date: 04-02-2003, 10:39 AM (13 of 44)
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I think the worst time is when having a cuddle he called me his "little cane toad" oach! Have you seen one of those? Big fat frog thing. I was feeling particularly sensative over size at the time - I wept. He apologised and for the past few years has remarked on how grogeous/sexy I look. Wonders for the self esteem girls - change can happen. And I have to remember not to turn him into a sewing widower or he feels crushed too. love that man!
love and kisses, Jan
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From: shirleyp
Date: 04-02-2003, 11:22 AM (14 of 44)
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Wow! I've been married for 30 yrs soon wondering if all men are the same. Guess I just found out they are. They can be very insensative. I've had my cries on the pillow. Shirley |
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From: Magot
Date: 04-02-2003, 11:51 AM (15 of 44)
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But are they that different from us, can you say that you haven't ever said anything that hurt them? I certainly can't. Be assured, I believe men and woman are different but if there is anyone who knows how to hurt you it's the ones you are closest to. love and kisses, Jan
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From: Raine
Date: 04-02-2003, 11:52 AM (16 of 44)
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After being married for 20 years, my hubby has learned his life is much better if he stays out of the doghouse. But, every once in a while, he must have a testosterone surge. A couple of days ago he told me I was getting a skunk streak (gray streak) in my hair. If I would have said "Yes, and you're going bald", he wouldn't have spoken to me for a week. My mom always taught me, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." I agree with you, Dave--I hate it when my hubby doesn't come and give me a kiss when he gets home. By the way, we have varying levels of trouble--first, he's in the puppy palace. Then comes the dog house. Then he's in the mutt mansion. If he gets to the mutt mansion, all of his laundry stays dirty and home-cooked meals are a thing of the past.
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From: MissMinx
Date: 04-04-2003, 06:04 AM (17 of 44)
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A couple of simple solutions to avoid a lot of bad feelings… I do care what happens in my family, as there are only two of us at this time. Our children are living their happy lives somewhere else and it is great to have time for ourselves! I do not cook (who says that a woman has to cook?), so my husband does all the cooking or we go out to a restaurant for dinner, which is not often, as he loves cooking and is very proud of it. We also have a cleaning woman (and her husband). It really avoids dreadful arguments about all sorts of things! And we have more time for each other when we choose to have it. I believe we deserve something nice as we get on with our lives. 
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From: Amyred
Date: 04-04-2003, 11:43 AM (18 of 44)
Well, he did it again this morning--I knew he was leaving about 5:30, so I said, "Well, see you in a few days." After being a  I told him if he was going to be an *******, stay a few days longer. He left without a word. That irritates me, but I didn't do anything but get ready for work. Haven't heard from him, of course (he has a two-way text pager we communicate with a lot) since he is at a ham radio festival. I'm thinking about not answering the phone tonight.  One of his friends has a 16 year old daughter who asked the other day, "When J. and Amy get married, can I be a bridesmaid?" Whenever he returns I'm going to tell him to tell his friend's daughter to make sure she goes to college first. Not too sure there's going to be one at this point. . .I can go to nursing school on my own, and at the rate he's going I will be. Dammit. I get 48 hours of reprieve. Maybe he WILL stay in Austin later and return Sunday night!
Amy the Redhead
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From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 04-04-2003, 01:32 PM (19 of 44)
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Amy, I know I should not stick my nose in here, but I have a question.. Are you a person who is bouncy and perky when you wake up in the morning. ?? and is J. a person like me??(not a morning person)... If this is the case, you will have to adjust because he will not be able to.. My ex learned after 15 years of trying to change me, to go with the flow.. He did not try to talk to me until I had FINISHED my first cup of coffee in the am and had my second cup in my hand..(by then, he had learned to make the coffee and bring my 1st cup to me, before trying to wake me up) Like I said, I probably should not even ask this, but I never learn.. I'm always trying to help.. 
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From: Amyred
Date: 04-04-2003, 01:41 PM (20 of 44)
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No, It's okay, Libby--you can ask. Actually, I'm NOT a morning person. In fact, he says I'm "incoherent woman" in the morning. He's usually wide awake in the am, ("perky" wouldn't work here) and frequently grouchy. I went decaf a couple of years ago (if you read Caffeine Blues or Schwarzbein Principle II you'll see why--it's not "safe") and I'm just not coherent for a few minutes when I wake up. He got up and was out the door in 20 minutes, bag packed and everything. (The truck was packed last night.) Didn't even say goodbye. If this continues I'll be the one out the door without saying goodbye. We've only been "living together" since December 1st. Believe me, it was very reluctantly, because I lost my job and couldn't get Unemployment. The local community college I attend has a fitness center that's free to students. I think it's time I started using it instead of being home every night after class. I need to work out anyway. 
Amy the Redhead
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From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 04-05-2003, 11:22 AM (21 of 44)
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I wish I could do something to help.. Hang in there, girlfriend...from an old lady...
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From: Amyred
Date: 04-07-2003, 09:26 AM (22 of 44)
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Seems the Demented Gentleman realized his mistake, he says he's frequently irritable in the morning (lack of beer, maybe? ) and he should not have done that. To get back in my good graces he not only ordered pizza but brought me a little chocolate bar. It's working. . . Maybe after I get over this week's test and the paper due this weekend I can get some sewing done. This time change isn't helping, either! 
Amy the Redhead
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From: cindy m
Date: 04-12-2003, 11:46 AM (23 of 44)
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Hey Girls, I've felt like Amy a few times myself. It can last up to a few days or a week if it was really a bad one!!!! Sometimes I go on strike too, with housekeeping and other things. I find that things bother me less now, as we have been married for eleven years, Like someone else said, I don't now why he thinks I should get rid of my stuff and keep all his junk. This is a issue in our basement. One thing I will never let him live down, and believe me, he had plenty of hints, was no gift for the 10th anniversary. His excuse, I didn't want to spend any money. I was on strike for a long time after that.....He finally figured it out and let me have my diamond reset and got me another piece of jewelry. Men are so stupid!!!! Why do we need them! cindy m |
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From: Amyred
Date: 04-12-2003, 11:54 AM (24 of 44)
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Actually, we don't, especially now. It happened again. . .I've got a paper to upload tonight, and he comes back from yard sale hopping to tell me that someone had a Kitchenaid mixer--the real expensive kind--for $20. I finish eating and go on his directions, which are BOGUS. When I finally get there, someone "just bought it." One thing I can't STAND is anyone wasting my time.  I let him have it when I got back. I told him next time to either buy it or shut up about it. I've got better damn things to do!
Amy the Redhead
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 04-16-2003, 11:40 PM (25 of 44)
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Hey Amy I've got one of those things and they do cost $$$'s I caught mine on sale for 199.00 it was orginally 250.00 and got an additional 25.00 off for using my Penny's charge card last year. final cost was arond 175.00 I love it too. I made three pies today with mine. Those things are real work horses. I can mix up a batch of cookies in no time flat. And making my own pizza doe, oooolala. If you get a chance to get one even if it's not as cheap as that one was get it ........you'll love it susie
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From: MissMinx
Date: 04-19-2003, 06:38 AM (26 of 44)
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OK, Mother in Law, what is the name of this super ‘thing’ that you have??? Amy, I know you do care, or you would not be so upset, but ask yourself a simple question: “Will it change after awhile”? You can change men’s behavior after a few years (many, many years) by good example, but would you want to go through it all for years or would you be better off starting something else anew? Something that could be great from the beginning, without all the hassle? I am speaking from experience. It can happen, you know, you don’t need to put up with anything you find abhorrent, you can lead a wonderful life with a man that really RESPECTS you and cares for you. This really is the key word. Please think about it and do not make a mistake of choosing something because it’s there. Lift your standards, girl! And take care of yourself. |
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 04-19-2003, 01:25 PM (27 of 44)
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Hey Minx, I tried private messaging you back but it said your box was full. I didn't ignore you dear. This thing LOL I have is a Kitchen Aid Mixer. It's worth it's weigh in gold. Mixing a batch of cookies in this thing is like stirring whip cream. I love mine. I make pizza dough in it in a flash. By the way a lot of people think I'm spoiled with all my great gadgets but I didn't always have a lot growing up and while raising my kids I did without a lot of neccessities, so now it's my turn to have the best don't you think? I am finally spoiled and it was worth waiting for. Susie Happy Easter everyone
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From: bren
Date: 04-19-2003, 02:54 PM (28 of 44)
I don't have one ,but seen one on the shopping channel ,Pretty nice machine , and makes everything , I would rather clean than cook LOL. 
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From: Yannick
Date: 04-19-2003, 04:24 PM (29 of 44)
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I have one for 8 years now...DH investment on is waist size LOL. Bread and pizza crust and such I love it.I had burn 3 hand mixers before I got that one it's a big one grey weighting 20 pounds...the baby of the kitchen Yannick Yannick
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 04-19-2003, 05:08 PM (30 of 44)
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Bren Come clean my house and I'll cook anything you like!!!!! Jambalaya, crayfish pie, file' Gumbo, Shrimp Pasta, Crayfish Ettouffee, Red Beans and Rice with smoked sausage, Butter beans with hot sausage, Field Peas, Okra Gumbo, Chicken Gumbo, Meatballs and Spaghetti, Name your poison I can fix it. That's just the main dishes. I hate housework. Especially cleaning up after I cook. LOL Susie
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From: MissMinx
Date: 04-19-2003, 09:43 PM (31 of 44)
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Mother in Law,You make my mouth water….. I think we should start a recipe section, or is there one already? I better go and clean up my private mail box...
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 04-19-2003, 11:07 PM (32 of 44)
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Oh I have plenty of recipes I can share with ya'll. Where do you want me to send them. LOL I'll start with my Mud Pie. Id you like Chocolate and you like cream cheese You'll love my pie. LOL Minx send me your email address via private mail box and I'll send you the recipe for mud pie. Ouuugh LaLa!!!! Oh wait I maybe able to post it here hold your horses. Be right back. LOL susie
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From: Mother in Law
Date: 04-19-2003, 11:17 PM (33 of 44)
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Mississippi Mud Pie Crust: Pecans Chopped about 1 cup 2 cups Plain Flower 2 Sticks of Butter or Margarine Mix all ingredience together and mash into a 9x13 glass pan, bake at 350 degrees for approx. 20 minutes Set aside to cool completely. First Layer: 2 – 8 ounce packs of cream cheese softened 1-½ cups of powdered sugar Mix well until all is blended and the mixture should be smooth Now spread this mixture over the room temperature crust. Second Layer: Now fix two lg packs of instant chocolate pudding following package directions for making pie. Spread pudding mixture over cream cheese mixture. Chill until ready to serve. Top with cool whip or whipped cream and chopped pecans. Bon’ Appetite!!!!! |
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From: MissMinx
Date: 04-20-2003, 02:55 AM (34 of 44)
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Got it, sounds yammyyy... I will even try and make it!
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From: bren
Date: 04-20-2003, 06:48 AM (35 of 44)
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Susie, that Mississippi Mud Pie sounds so good, I might just forse myself to make it for Mothers Day
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From: bren
Date: 04-20-2003, 06:53 AM (36 of 44)
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I would love to have your Jambalaya recipe , I had it when I was there and my DH and I loved it, Thanks
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From: MaryW
Date: 04-20-2003, 03:47 PM (37 of 44)
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Ok ladies, the recipes sound just too good, but let's start a new discussion here on Home & Hearth. Recipes don't belong with complaining about our hubbies and boyfriends.
MaryW
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From: plrlegal
Date: 04-20-2003, 10:43 PM (38 of 44)
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Agreed Mary! I just posted a yummy easy to make receipe on the new Receipe Exchange Forum. As far as husbands and boyfriends go, I have discovered for myself it is easier to dwell on the positives and decide on a day to day, sometimes hour to hour basis, which of his little faults, flaws, habtis, etc., are really worth expending a lot of emotional engergy or anger over. Let's face it girls, none of us are perfect either and I'm sure that we all have a few little faults and flaws that drive our guys nuts as well. Praise him for his positives and eventually the little negatives will cease to bother you as much. One thing is for sure and certain, trying to change them is sometimes like banging your head against a cement wall and will frustrate, anger, and emotionally exhaust you a lot more than it does him. LOL  Patsy Patsy
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From: MissMinx
Date: 04-23-2003, 11:58 PM (39 of 44)
| Very wise, Patsy, I agree with you. Men (as well as women!) love to be complimented for the ‘good bits’ they do. My DH never did that in the past, until I started doing it to him, now he is different. I guess what I am trying to say is, lead by good example – works pretty well. |
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From: MaryW
Date: 04-24-2003, 11:41 AM (40 of 44)
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Everyone loves praise. It is rare to receive it though. I wonder why.
MaryW
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From: Magot
Date: 04-24-2003, 12:39 PM (41 of 44)
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Popular educationalists believe that every negative word needs 7 positive words to counteract it. Let's face it - we know words are powerfull - who can't think of something someone has said that has hurt us. I believe it's thew way God started the whole shebang. "Let there be light" and POW the Big Bang and then some! It pays to be careful what you say. One of the phrases in our family is "Don't curse yourself" it's easier to say "I can't" than I can. Swim against the flow girls!
love and kisses, Jan
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From: MaryW
Date: 04-24-2003, 01:00 PM (42 of 44)
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I learned this with my grandson. Positive comments will get you much farther than if I warn him if he doesn't shape up, he will be in deep trouble.
MaryW
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From: sewingrandma
Date: 04-24-2003, 02:46 PM (43 of 44)
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When my children were in grade school they had one teacher that always gave warm fuzzies and cold pricklies. When she complimented the kids she also gave them a fuzzy ball that she had put big felt feet and tiny eyes and a ribbon with "good job" "number 1" or something else that gave them praise. If they were bad they got an ice cube. They knew they had done bad/wrong but also knew that the cold prickly wouldn't stay forever with them and that they could improve and earn the warm fuzzies. Worked for her classes. Parents liked it and even helped making the warm fuzzies for her.
Brockie
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From: MaryW
Date: 04-24-2003, 02:56 PM (44 of 44)
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Such a simple thing and so effective.
MaryW
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