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From: kaykay
Date: 05-09-2003, 11:02 AM (1 of 8)
Ladies, I have a question:

My husband's daughter is getting married in Aug., of course he will be giving her away and dressed in a Tux for the ceremony, pictures,reception line, etc.(I know he will look great! )

My question, since it is rumored to be a formal wedding, am I to dress as part of the wedding party? That is, to try to co-ordinate my dress color with that of her decorations, length, etc. Also , will I be most likely in her pictures also? (Her mother & husband will be attending, and I'm not the MOB.)
I'm not quite sure what my role is here. You see, though I've been married twice, never had a church wedding.

I would like to make my dress, BTW, so am trying to think ahead. Don't want to blunder by under dressing, but how far do I need to go to be appropriate???

Hey, my hubby & I went before the judge-lots less STRESS ha:whacky:

Thanks so much

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User: kaykay
Member since: 02-12-2002
Total posts: 33
From: Bookworm
Date: 05-09-2003, 02:27 PM (2 of 8)
Hi kaykay,
It is so hard to tell what the right thing is. I think you should ask his daughter, or ask your husband to ask her. Every wedding is different, so that's the only way to know for sure.
Good luck!
User: Bookworm
Member since: 02-05-2002
Total posts: 9
From: LeapFrog Libby
Date: 05-09-2003, 03:26 PM (3 of 8)
I believe the only people who have your answers are the bride-to-be and the wedding director, if there is one.. Can you not ask her these questions??Where clothing is concerned, I would hesitate to trust questions and answers to DH.. unless he is one in a million..:bg:
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User: LeapFrog Libby
Member since: 05-01-2002
Total posts: 2022
From: Chrysantha
Date: 05-09-2003, 08:23 PM (4 of 8)
You dress like the rest of the ' wedding party '. No matter if you're the mother of the bride or not, you're the stepmother of the bride.
You'll probably be in the pictures (if not, ask why not.....) so you should look your best. When in doubt, trust your instincts...they're seldom wrong...

User: Chrysantha
Member since: 09-06-2002
Total posts: 2414
From: Raine
Date: 05-09-2003, 10:30 PM (5 of 8)
Kerry, you could make a dress that coordinates with the wedding party without being the exact color. What I'm saying is--your dress doesn't have to match the bridesmaid's dresses. Perhaps a soft green would work.
User: Raine
Member since: 04-19-2000
Total posts: 259
From: MissMinx
Date: 05-10-2003, 02:02 AM (6 of 8)
You are the wife of FOB, so you will be in SOME photos, so…
I would go for a mid calf length in a skirt (it will go with any occasion), something pastel (what ever suits you best, may be with a bit of floral in it), two piece. It must be flow-y, soft and comfortable so you feel at ease and would not worry about eating or breathing… High heels, of course and a soft hairdo. Just imagine that you are floating on air and you’ll be right! :cool:
User: MissMinx
Member since: 02-14-2003
Total posts: 140
From: Bama
Date: 05-10-2003, 10:56 AM (7 of 8)
I agree that you should ask the bride to be sure what she wants. It seems these things are changing since I was married.
For instance, my mother always said that if you asked someone to be in your wedding, you shouldn't ask them to pay for their own clothing. Now it's the norm. (I still think we'll pay for the bride's maids dresses when our dd gets married)

When my sister got married, both her husband's mother and step mother were there. Both were dressed formally.
From what I remember of the pictures, both of them are in the pictures with their husbands. There's even some with all of them together.

If you'd like to have a laugh about wedding ettiquette no-nos, check this out. :whacky: Funny
User: Bama
Member since: 03-21-2000
Total posts: 2116
From: kaykay
Date: 05-19-2003, 05:59 PM (8 of 8)
Hello, everyone, I've been gone for a few days, and -:bluesmile such a nice treat to see how all of you wrote to help me.
I am re-reading everything, and have a much more "confident" mind set. I will feel much less in the dark when I ask "my Questions", I don't know the bride well at all, and the wedding is quite a ways from home.

Thank you all so much-you are great

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User: kaykay
Member since: 02-12-2002
Total posts: 33
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